A)Gays are denied the benefits of a spouse because we’re not married.

So the people say “Oh, it’s not because you’re gay, it’s because you’re not married.”

B)Gays are not allowed to be married because our partners are the same gender.

So the people say “Oh it’s not because you’re gay, it’s because you don’t have an opposite sex partner.”

I fail to see how that is not “sexual orientation descrimination.”

If a person in a wheelchair was told they could not have a job on the 3rd floor we wouldn’t accept this, but the logic would be the same.
“Oh, it’s not because you’re in a wheelchair, it’s because the job is on the third floor.”

“Oh it’s not because you’re in a wheelchair, it’s because you can’t get up the stairs.”

It’s technically possible that a person in a wheelchair could crawl to the third floor on their hands and face, but long ago we realized that it was unfair, insulting, and unequal.

I wonder how long it’s going to take for us to get “an elevator”?

While the authors do come from different ideologies and political parties, we do share a common belief about how citizens should be treated under law. For example, we view a “policy [that] is biased in favor of the traditional model of the nuclear family: mom, dad, and the kids” to be discriminatory. It violates the notion of “all men are created equal” and replaces it with “heterosexuals deserve more than homosexuals”.

You may disagree. I don’t care. This is our shared perspective and it will be a consistent theme in our writing.

You seem unhappy with the content and perspective of our site. Perhaps you would be happier at some site that considers “leftist” to be the ultimate insult. We don’t here.

(oh, and incidentally, I DON’T have to justify my opinions nor is Jim going to “suspend” me for having them)

I know you want me to “grow a skin” so I won’t comment on this thread again, but I have not found your responses thus far to be entirely satisfactory.

I have no problem dealing with the fact that others honestly disagree with me. Frankly, it’s a bit insulting that you think I do. You don’t seem to understand my concerns at all.

I am concerned because all three contributors to this site seem to come from the exact same place politically. This creates the same sort of problem a newspaper would have if all of its reporters were of the same political bent.

I admit I do not like the reflexive leftism found in most of the gay blogosphere. But I honestly think BTB would be best served by being free of it. It is not a matter of finding balance somewhere else. (In any event, a polemical political site like Gay Patriot cannot be a balance of any sort to BTB.)

I’m sorry if it bothers you to be so labeled, Jim, but you are something of a lefty. If you weren’t you would have understood what my criticism of Dana Kincaid was about.

If you don’t think I was treated like dirt on the ENDA thread I invite you to read through it again from start to finish.

In that thread I stated I was asking about congressional authority “because I worry about the way people’s policy desires overule something all citizens should share: a desire for constitutional governance,” and that my questions weren’t “about whether or not employment discrimation is good or bad.” Yet in his second reply to me Timothy Kincaid presumes to tell me I’m prejudiced against gay people. (Although not in so many words.) When I continued to ask for an answer to my question based on the law, Timothy replied:

If you want to debate theories about constitutionality in general, call a buddy and go have some beers. I’m not interested.

Translation:‘Don’t bother me with your pesky questions, you miserable little piss-ant. I don’t have to justify my opinions.’

And what do you know — Tim’s at it again in this very thread!

…those who favor discrimination against gays will find ways to counter criticism… even if it means ignoring the content of the thread and attacking other commenters instead.

There he is again telling us all what I believe based on things I never said. I know you have challenged people on the left. You have even done so in defense of me. But if you want me to be really impressed, you’ll suspend Timothy.

Your response to me here is nearly as hysterical as the three posts I originally criticized!

You are twisting my words when you say I think providing equality is about doling out benefits. Dana did not accuse Bush of treating Guest unfairly; he accused Bush of ruining Guest’s life. And the manner of ruining Guest’s life was not getting the government to pay for enough benefits.

Inherent in your argument is the assumption that legally-wed spouses that are opposite-sex can and should be treated differently than legally-wed spouses who are same-sex.

Now just how the hell do you come to this conclusion? This is the same sort of bullsh*t you pulled with me on the ENDA thread. No, I take that back — this is actually worse! There you were guessing at an opinion I didn’t state; here you are making my argument run counter to what I actually said.

It was not I who brought up the matter of adult children and elderly parents. The Times editorial you linked to did that! Michael guest himself said the issue goes beyond gay partners.

Oh, and a person’s parents and adult offspring are only “tangentially related parties”? Just who are you to tell people that their immediate blood relations are less their family than their spouses?

The State Department is not implementing a policy of discrimination based on sexual orientation; its policy is biased in favor of the traditional model of the nuclear family: mom, dad, and the kids. Any family structure that doesn’t fit that mold is out of luck.

I’m afraid you’re the one being insensitive here, Tim.

And another beautiful thing about commentary, is that any one of us gets to decide what statement they may want to challenge. I hope you don’t feel picked on, but I chose yours. I could have easily chosen anyone else, but yes, to be honest, I wasn’t disturbed by them. Take that for what you will. But before you stomp off and label me a “lefty” you might want to notice that I have challenged people on the left — and have gone so far as to put some of them on moderation and banned them.

But if you are disturbed by a lack of balance in the comments, then I am sure that Gay Patriot or someone else can provide the “balance” that you seek.

I’m not interested in this thread becoming sidetracked into personal complaints. If someone wants to comment about the post, feel free. But the topic of this thread is not about who said what nasty thing to who (when in fact what’s said here is quite mild compared to Fox News, MSNBC and CNN — or Gay Patriot or Kos).

Please everyone, grow a skin. And either get back to the topic or move on.

You didn’t need to tell me you weren’t bothered in the least by those earlier notes; I already knew that. ;)

It is interesting you bring to my attention your lack of patience for the defense of ongoing discrimination. I did not defend the State Department’s discrimination. I reacted against Dana Kincaid’s statement that a man’s life had been fouled up because his employer wasn’t generous enough.

I agree that at least some of the benefits mentioned in the editiorial are things the State Department should do for its employees family members, but that doesn’t mean it is fair to say an employee’s life has been ruined by the State Department failing to offer them.

Dana Kincaid’s assertion was an expression of the left’s view that one’s rights are something that others have an obligation to pay for. (John’s comment about “basic human rights as freely given in most of the free world” is likewise.) I disagree with this view.

I do not think, nor did I mean to imply, that discovering someone to be a homosexual is “digging up dirt” on that person. Frankly, I do not think what I wrote lends itself to such an interpretation. The phrase “digging up dirt” means trying to find information to embarass the individual; that is exactly what Thivierge had in mind.

Nevertheless we do have very different views of the world, Jim, if you “don’t think it’s a particularly “lefty” thing to point out that someone (Republican or any other political bent) is gay when they are aiding, abedting, or promoting discrimination.”

The gay outing specialists like Mike Rogers are dyed-in-the-wool left-wingers. And their idea of aiding or promoting anti-gay discrimination is disagreeing with them. The Gay Patriot, who has had to personally deal with Rogers, said just yesterday that the gay left has for years been “personally punishing gay Americans for merely not towing the liberal political line on gay policy issues.”

I was not hurt that you disagreed with me and not the others. I was, as I wrote, “disturbed.” I found it disturbing that three hysterical, leftist-biased comments failed to bother you “in the slightest” while one sentence of mine complaining about the left’s promoting people putting their hands out prompts you to lecture me on being cold-hearted.

This is part of a pattern:

Daniel Gonzales thinks that courts are free to create whatever protections they want for whatever minorities they want to protect rather than just apply the law as written.

Timothy Kincaid lauds the passage of ENDA by the House. I ask what power granted to Congress by the Constitution authorizes this act; he proceeds to insinuate that I am a bigot. You post a comment asking people to behave more respectfully; he continues to treat me like dirt anyway.

For a gay web log that wants to serve even “those who oppose equal rights for gays and lesbians, but wish to avoid the pitfalls of the massive misinformation coming from all sides of the issues,” all three of you seem to have a hard time realizing that there are those who care about the welfare and dignity of gay people who do not support left-wing politics.

David: It all boils down it this, as we have discussed elsewhere. Either homosexuality and heterosexuality– hence gay people and straight people– are going to be treeated equally before AND by the law, or they are not. The same rights, the same resposibilties, the same benefits, nothing more and nothing less.

The first position we call equality, the second one– absent a clear and present danger, problem, illegality, calamity, or any other negative consequence that can be clearly demonstrated of treating gay and straight people the same– we call discrimination and prejudice.

either you accept that equality– gay is neither better nor worse than straight, it just is– or you don’t.

I am not willing to make the claim that gay peoople are better than straight people. Neither am I willing to support the reverse claim.