My congratulations to Valerie and Tracie. Their efforts certainly help raise the visibility of real people whom this vile amendment has hurt.

I think my response would have been “Yeah, that’s me! Destroying civilization, one romance at a time.” I’ve always had a pretty good time, giving nonsensical answers to crap like this.

Besides, based on her polygamy response, it sounds like she wasn’t part of the college educated since they are the ones who are more likely to support gay rights than people who aren’t college educated. I can’t stand dumb people.

Although I would put it slightly differently “You’re looking for a fight by openly insulting several guests. I won’t give you the satisfaction, I have too much respect for __(host name)__.”

She wasn’t interested in being “educated”. She was interested in publicly putting you down.

Same, sarcam would’ve probably slipt through, with a smile of course.

“The moment she said what she said I would have thanked my hosts and walked out.”

oH DEAR NO.. that would, imo, be shunning yourself with no actual progress.

“Alternatively, you could simply have refused to engage her socially. Be polite and civil, of course, but do not make conversation”

I FAIL to see the point of non-conversation. Of course.. unless it has already been attempted over and over… and even then…

“If you wanna make stupid comments to me, you’ll get lambasted, and I don’t care which imaginary friend is celebrating their birthday on the occasion in question, or who else is at the table.”

I think i agree with you miles more than the ‘polite’ ppl.

“It’s time that people like this realize that they are no friend to gays & lesbians, and we are the ones who have to demonstrate that to them at all times, at all costs.”

I don’t think she doubts we are human or that we can be civil. what she needs a dose of reality. A witty, intelligent person might make her understand a point or two.

“Accept the fact there are rude people everywhere…at parties, at work and at public events. ”

And we should all accept their actions and ignore it. And the next time it happens you’ll do the same. And the next…. until she, again, votes your rights away out of pure ignorance. Of course you had a chance to attempt to persuade her out of her ill, slippery-sloped, disingenuous reason, and maybe even find a NO vote for the next time. But you decided to be polite… to accept that there are rude ppl. Surely taking her out in private was fine… but you should have surely tried a bit harder to at least feel.. as if you tried.

She decided to boast and essentially, like bruno said, felt “she had held her ground and was morally justified in doing so”. COnsidering you are equal to them you have the same right to do so and could’ve proudly displayed that you had voted yes. This might have opened her to publicly announce her reason and would have left you open (and the rest of you) to expose the flaws to her far-fetched argument.

I hope she has not one.. but two gay children. Maybe.. just maybe she’ll begin to understand(and empathize) the difference between polygamy and gay relationships.

If any case I’m wondering if the whole fear of polygamy had anything to do with her personal situation? Without knowing any of the details I suppose it is impossible to know, but she may have been displacing her anger at the father of her child onto gays.

Also, who were the other gays there? Friends? Relatives? How did they react? And how did the other guests react? And how did the girl’s boyfriend react? Were they horrified or did they agree with here? Just curious.