There are two issues that I see as often getting tangled up. The issue of god-existence is, or should be, completely separate from the issue of religion being positive or negative (or some of both),and including how we have been treated by a religion’s adherents.

I was well along the path to becoming a non-believer long before developing any negative opinions about religion. For me, it was never a matter of it religion being “evil,” it was just that I saw much more logic and reason on the side of non-belief. And any difficulties that I experienced growing up gay I perceived as from society in general, not from religion.

Many Christians find it convenient or self-comforting to say things like “you hate God (or reject God) so that you can indulge your sin without any guilt.” That allows them to ignore that there may be good logic and reasons for non-belief, while demonizing the non-believer at the same time.

Timothy suggests that I find “evil” or “offense” in religion because I’m looking for it. Not necessarily. Initially, any negative attributes found me, I didn’t go looking for them. While it’s true that accepting negatives becomes more possible when one is a non-believer, I think of it in terms of me just being more unbiased (I’m sure you’re laughing at that, Timothy). It is also true that, as a non-believer, it is difficult to see anything positive from encouraging belief in things that are not true, but that doesn’t mean they are necessarily evil. Given that (daily) for some years now I have been reading blogs (such as Boxturtle) and websites of anti-gay groups (all Christian-based I must note), it should be understandable that I find virtually nothing positive. And eight years of the Bush administration wound up tight with right wing Christianity didn’t help.

I really do try to remember that the Religious Right does not nearly represent the full spectrum of Christianity. But they are motivated, loud, persistent, organized, and well funded for anti-gay campaigns, while I perceive other Christian groups as relatively unmotivated, quiet, and not organized or funded for any campaigns on our behalf.

Timothy cites the Quakers, Unitarian/Universalists, and the United Church of Christ as examples that have been “advocating for gay rights long before Stonewall.” I admire those groups (for more than just their gay stance), but combined they are a very small percentage of American Christians.

Timothy wrote, “Religion is not the basis for the 100% of the animus against gays. It’s probably not the basis for the majority.” I didn’t say it was. I said “virtually 100% of our organized opposition is based on, or supported by, religious belief,” and I still stand by that.

Many gays have been exiled just for being who they are, and this was justified by faith.

And that is why you hear “ooh, religion bad”. I’m not defending their viewpoint, I am merely saying that if the one thing that was supposed to protect and love you rejected you and tossed you out to fend for yourself, especially at a young age, you wouldn’t exactly be up for hearing about it’s better qualities, or how much it’s grown, now would you?

I would urge to you accept the fact that some people have been two deeply cut by the church to ever truly hear or believe anything positive you have to say on the matter. When people are abandoned by their faith, they tend to abandon what they have been taught — like forgiveness. Which is not to say you should give up, just that it’s probably time for a new set of tactics, if not a new perspective.

I know that you believe the things that you are writing. Which is what frustrates me.

It is tax season and it would take me an hour to respond adequately (which I don’t have) to your presumptions about relion. But you are mistaken, deeply and thoroughly.

So… quickly (and inadequately):

1. No most Christians don’t view conservatives as “other”. They see them as brothers with whom they disagree. And that is one thing that slows down true advancement, that liberal Christians very cautiously and carefully seek not to force their “radical new” ideas on those who aren’t there yet. They pray together and hope for unity next year. And the year after that…

2. Religion is not the basis for the 100% of the animus against gays. It’s probably not the basis for the majority.

Read that again.

Even if there weren’t seven clobber verses, there would still be anti-gay animus. We are different from at least 90% of the populace and folks have a really hard time with what is different. Whether or not there are words in a sacred text.

Religion acts symbiotically with culture. Seldom does religion dictate, more often it reflects the culture around it.

Currently there is some “but its a sin” stuff from people who are simply parroting their church or their culture, but (and pay attention to this) church adherents are no more likely to obey the dictates of their church than are gay people likely to obey the dictates of the Human Rights Campaign.

We know that it is laughable when anti-gays talk about Homosexual Leaders and their evil agenda that is blindly followed by poor deluded gays. It truly is equally laughable to think of churches and believers the same way.

And when it comes to politicians, very few are motivated by some fear of a vengeful God. Especially Republicans.

As the culture moves, so does religion. And (cuz I see it coming), no religion is not what’s holding culture back. In many instances, it is leading culture.

Why, exactly, is it that culture has changed; because gays are so very very influential and did it alone? No.

Just look at the history of the Quakers and the Unitarians and the UCC and others who were advocating for gay rights long before Stonewall.

When people have biases, they need to hear that it’s moral and correct to give up those biases. And churches have for decades been saying exactly that.

I know that this will instinctually be hard to take, but it’s true: if there were no gay-supportive churches, there would be no gay-supportive laws. It is the ambiguity coming from the faith community that allows society to accept us.

Doubt that? Look at areas that have only one dominant anti-gay faith (e.g. Utah). And look at those with many diverse faiths (e.g. California).

3. At the risk of offending you, I think perhaps you’re looking for offense from religion. So, yeah, you find it.

I’m not trying to convert you or any other non-believers to some belief system but I don’t want to be converted either. So the constant anti-religion stuff gets tiresome.

If I say, “Luterans support gay marriage”, there is from some here a knee-jerk reaction, “Ohhh. Religion. Bad!!” I say, “Presbyterians elect gay deacon” and the response is, “Ohhh. Religion. Bad!!”

It truly is possible to note advances and positive steps in some religious communities without having to be constantly told, “but they are religious, and that’s evil evil evil”.

These words easily apply to you as well. How do you know it is not YOU that is twisting, sugarcoating?

I understand that the focus of this blog is certainly not religion. But, as I read this blog (and others) that chronicle the battle for gay equality, there is one thing I see consistently present in nearly every posting, whether it is explicitly mentioned or not mentioned at all. That one thing is the presence of religion as “the elephant in the room” which is so often ignored. I see virtually 100% of our organized opposition as based on, or supported by, religious belief.

Maybe I’m wrong, but I think moderate Christians, in general, tend to view fundamentalists as a “them” being substantially different from themselves. I, in contrast, as a non-believer, tend to see both groups as being closer together, and more on a continuous scale with a blurred area in the middle, but with significant distinctions between the opposite ends of the scale. There are certain basic things which I presume even the most moderate Christians believe, and they include Jesus being the son of God, the virgin birth story, the resurrection story, viewing the Bible is the inspired word of God, and that prayers are actually answered. I think that if one believes those basic supernatural things, then it is not that great a leap to becoming more fundamentalist. I have personally seen some people make that leap. I think even moderate religious belief needs to be publicly challenged because that belief helps enable and feed the expansion of fundamentalism.

As a non-believer there are things that jump out at me in the media (and social interactions) that Christians don’t even notice due to their living in a Christian-dominated or Christian-centric world. As gay people we should all be able to understand that feeling from living in a heterosexual-dominated/centric world.

Oh, and by the way, I grew up in the PCUSA.

That is the literal and clear meaning of the text, is it not?

(btw, don’t try quoting “new testament” verses at me b/c i’m a big fat Jew)

You make a number of assumptions that do not work in your favor.

First, while many of our readers are Christians, many others are not. Many of those here hold your scripture as no higher authority than the Koran or the Egyptian Book of the Dead. While you may think that the Bible is authoritative, appealing to scripture is pointless for convincing those who do not share your faith. It’s no more effective than someone quoting the Koran to you.

Second, you assume that those here that do adhere to Christian faith are less familiar than you with Scripture. You seem to think that if you just quote Leviticus then you will prove some point.

Sorry.

But most of our readers are more informed about the “clobber passages” than you. We, for example, also know that abominations include eating shellfish and wearing cotton-poly blend. And we know that the original intent of the scripture you quote related to establishing religious differences with the Canaanite peoples (the remnants of the Hittite Empire) who had temple prostitution.

We know that Jesus spoke about sexual minorities but also warned us that some, like you, would not have ears to hear. We know that he healed the pais of a Roman – most likely his male concubine and that the very first non-Jewish convert to Christianity was a sexual minority.

It’s easy to forgive you for your religious arrogance, your self-righteousness, and your willful condemnation. You simply aren’t well schooled or knowledgable.

I do suggest, Cris B., that before you go off to evangelize again that you let go of your presumptions of superiority and holiness, that you come listening rather than expounding, and – most importantly – that you have a clue about what you are talking about.

If you feel your actions are leading you to keep yourself trapped in a closet, and your freedom is coming out of it and hoping for acceptance.

I believe your confused.

Me confused? I am human and when I find a sense of confusion upon me, I pray to God and ask for him to make things clear, and nothing is more clear than his word.

Leviticus 18:22 ‘Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman; that is detestable.

God is merciful and he shows his mercy within this passage. I am not here to say that God hates, dislikes or does not love homosexuals, For the God that I serve loves all of us equally, But I will say through his word God may love us all equally, but if our actions are not in accordance to what he has expressed through his word as doing right, than people we are in the wrong.

It’s easy to sugarcoat his words and twist his words around to make things a lot more accustom to what makes you feel like your doing right. But when his word specifically says do not lie with a man the way you would lie with a woman (vice versa) I don’t know how much more clear he needs to put it.

I would say look deep in your heart and ask yourself do you feel your living in accordance to God’s standards? Or are you living in accordance to the your own standards and hoping God accepts them?

If you want to debate Calvinism, you’re probably not going to get much of an informed discussion on this thread.