Comments on: Defenders of marriage be warned: you may be killing it

By: Mark F.

Mark F. — Thu, 20 May 2010 19:50:14 +0000

I’m wondering why these couples don’t want a traditional marriage.

By: Kel Munger

Kel Munger — Thu, 20 May 2010 18:25:25 +0000

So maybe marriage isn’t for everyone?

And maybe we need a multiplicity of ways of arranging and describing our relationships (and by “our,” I mean human adults)?

I say this as a married lesbian (one of the “special” legal marriages in CA) in a relationship of 18 years (so far) duration.

We want to be married. Nothing else describes what we are to each other; nothing else carries with it the rights and responsibilities we need.

But there are some people who only want part of that, for whatever reason. Not judging; just saying. And there’s no reason why they shouldn’t have access to it.

So let’s have marriage, civil union, domestic partnership and limited legal agreements. Let everybody have access. And quit picking on people whose lives are different than yours.

By: Kel Munger

Kel Munger — Thu, 20 May 2010 18:24:23 +0000

So maybe marriage isn’t for everyone?

And maybe we need a multiplicity of ways of arranging and describing our relationships (and by “our,” I mean human adults)?

I say this as a married lesbian (one of the “special” legal marriages in CA)in a relationship of 18 years (so far) duration.

We want to be married. Nothing else describes what we are to each other; nothing else carries with it the rights and responsibilities we need.

But there are some people who only want part of that, for whatever reason. Not judging; just saying. And there’s no reason why they should have access to it.

So let’s have marriage, civil union, domestic partnership and limited legal agreements. Let everybody have access. And quit picking on people whose lives are different than yours.

By: Lindoro Almaviva

Lindoro Almaviva — Thu, 20 May 2010 04:14:10 +0000

I think marriage equality will happen in the same vein as desegregation and interracial marriage. Slow attempts state by state until the supreme court decides to put an end to the charades and slices the pie evenly.

By: Jason D

Jason D — Thu, 20 May 2010 03:08:50 +0000

I often say that if someone truly supports the equality of gay couples, then the fastest, easiest, most complete, most fair, and least complicated way to achieve that is to simply open up marriage to gay couples.

Attempts to create parallel or lesser institutions aren’t fair, are incomplete, unnecessarily complicated and likely to have unintended consequences just like this.

By: Ben in Oakland

Ben in Oakland — Thu, 20 May 2010 02:50:24 +0000

But of ocurse they will say that this proves that recognizing gay relationships hurts marriage. Of course, if you throw in the obvious– that if only marriage is available, people will only get married– that it proves once again, both the law of unintended consequences, and that the peope who claim to be pro-family are in fact anything but.