The operative words “a duty”. That suggests that Timothy thinks these two young men have an obligation to put up with shit to educate their families on behalf of the rest of us.

I neither see, nor expect, such sacrifice

Timothy K
you seem willing to sacrifice these boys’ future together to try and educate the straights. Be certain: the strain of their families’ homophobia could tear them apart; why risk that to make a point?

You wait for THEM to crawl back, you don’t accommodate their prejudices in case you alienate the very persin you want them to welcome: life is a one-off deal, few second chances

Really? Timothy is not deciding what Kent and Matt ought to do, it’s Kent and Matt doing it. Timothy’s just defending their decision.

In fact, we all have had to decide how to deal with our families. And as each of us know our own family members better than anyone on an internet discussion list, and each of us know better our own capacity to deal with adversity from different family members, we all make decisions, adjustments, accomodations, and/or cut off contact accordingly. These are deeply personal decisions that we all make, revisit, and make again, often continually. No one has the right to second guess them. One size doesn’t fit all.

Best wishes to Matt and Kent. I’m glad they decided to make their stories public.

If they are up for adoption, they could do worse than this tall, broad shouldered big mouthed black woman.

Richard Rush, I think it’s all three brother. The way I’m seeing the anti gay work, they cover ALL the bases of ways to hurt, dehumanize, demoralize, humiliate confound and cynically in any and every way they can.

Then stand back and point a finger if you dare to, you know, show that hurt, dehumanization, demoralization, humiliation, and so on.

People like this are the biggest cowards I’ve ever seen. No spine at all.
Not even CURIOUS that they might not know all that there is. And the opportunity to really know is right there in front of them.

I wish this young couple luck.

And despite the damage his family did to him, my ex still loves them and is still waiting for them to come back to him. Today, as ten years ago, I am not that strong a person. I was lucky to have never faced any antagonism from my immediate family, but there are aunts and uncles that I have chopped right out of my life and I don’t give a fat, flying eff if they ever come around. These guys are a model for how to behave when your family shuns you.

I commend you for your hard work. Even if your family fails you, remember you have nephews and nieces and your example will go a long way to refuting whatever it is that their parents are telling them.

Of course only you can decide how much is too much, but for now, thank you for making my future a more tolerant place.

You wait for THEM to crawl back, you don’t accommodate their prejudices in case you alienate the very persin you want them to welcome: life is a one-off deal, few second chances

Every time I hear about this kind of reaction (“don’t get near my kids”), I wonder if the speaker is really so ignorant that they believe their kids will catch the gay the same way they may catch a cold, and/or if they think that a gay person is much more likely to molest their kids than a straight person. OR, is it just said as a way of hurting the gay person?