How to Kill a Kid

Rob Tisinai

October 4th, 2010

Step 1: Denial

Maggie Gallagher covers her ass on Tyler Clementi’s suicide:

I do not think the absence of gay marriage is the cause of these tragedies or its presence will resolve them. We can make this a symbol of all our other fights, or we can try to save all our kids, gay and straight, from this kind of ugly and mindless cruelty. My heart goes out to the family of the young man. God bless him and them.

Step 2: Degradation

World Net Daily columnist Vox Day:

[Tyler Clementi] killed himself because he could not live with the shame of knowing that everyone would be aware of his submission to what he apparently believed to be evil desires. While giving in to our desire for evil is something that we all do from time to time, it is also true that some desires happen to be more shameful or humiliating than others. For example, a man’s desire for his neighbor’s wife is sinful, but few consider it to be as appalling as his desire for his neighbor’s child.

Step 3: Damnation

An account of Senator Jim DeMint speaking at a Spartanburg church rally:

DeMint said if someone is openly homosexual, they shouldn’t be teaching in the classroom and he holds the same position on an unmarried woman who’s sleeping with her boyfriend — she shouldn’t be in the classroom.

Step 4: Repeat

Here’s what the right-wing Christianist (not Christian) message boils down to:

It’s not our fault that gay kids are killing themselves. They kill themselves because they feel naturally ashamed of their perversion. Also, they’re vile creatures who shouldn’t be around kids.

How angry are you? How much angrier can you get? Double that. Then get angrier.


October 4th, 2010

Given the known immorality of so many politicians in many respects (particularly on the Republican side) if I had kids I think I would rather they have a single unmarried teacher who’s sleeping with her boyfriend (or for that matter, girlfriend) than be around a person like Senator DeMint.

Before they are done with it, the word “Christian” will be an insult and a swear word…but in spite of their bad behavior these people will try to blame the rest of us.


October 4th, 2010

Maggie Gallagher could NEVER cover her ass, either morally or physically. She’s proudly complicit in creating the gay-hostile environment these poor kids are forced to live in. And now that the bodies are starting to pile up she’s trying to distance herself from the bloodbath she’s created. And she’s doing a sh!t-poor job at it. Maggie and her ilk are vile, reprehensible monsters. If I were gullible enough to be a praying man, I’d request pain and suffering for every gay-hater commensurate with the horror they’ve caused.


October 4th, 2010

I got into an argument with my father once. He said that gays suffered from higher rates of mental illness, such as depression and suicide, than the general population, which was evidence that homosexuality was in itself a mental illness. Try as I might, I could not make him see that the depression and suicide came from gay kids being told that their parents, communities, and god thought that they were subhuman slime.

The only good that will come from the existence of NOM is that they will reveal their hatred for what it is, helping the rest of society to move toward being a bit more civilised.

Ben in Oakland

October 4th, 2010

Jake– just to be fair to Mags, she didn’t start the bloodbath. That’s been going on for a few thousand years.

she’s just the willing perpetrator.

Emily K

October 4th, 2010

And what exactly is the point of getting angry? It’s not like THEY feel any remorse over this at all. So why waste our energy feeling angrier and angrier. What will come of it? Just anger. It leaves me and possibly others paralyzed to be in such a state.


October 4th, 2010

It sends a chill down my spine to think that DeMint is making a play to becopme majority leader in the Senate: thus will the “Family” move closer to it’s goal of unlimited power. Senator Palpatine, indeed.

Reading Jeff Sharlet’s “C-Street”.

Equality Revolt

October 4th, 2010

Funny how our PREZ can say, “This is a moment where every one of us – parents, teachers, students, elected officials, and all people of conscience – needs to stand up and speak out against intolerance in all its forms. Whether it’s students harassing other students because of ethnicity, disability or religion; or an adult, public official harassing the President of the University of Michigan student body because he is gay, it is time we as a country said enough. No more. This must stop.”….while simultaneously being PART OF THE PROBLEM.

Until the United States can let go of it’s own INSTITUTIONALIZED “legal” HATRED OF LGBTQ PEOPLE, we are under the helm of a flaccidly fierce leader.


October 4th, 2010

I can’t get any angrier than I already am. When I try, the excess just spills over into cynicism.


These bigots are almost enough to make me wish hell existed.


October 4th, 2010

I’m starting to think more and more that it won’t hurt our side to get violent. It’s not like much of the general public actually follows these groups, and the ones who would bash us for it are those who area already against us. Remember too that the Carrie Prejean incident was a public event, so it’s different.


October 4th, 2010

As long as the message is:
Suicide is a tragedy and should never be the solution for your problems
you are an evil young person, a degenerate, a sinner, a disgrace, and should be ashamed to feel the way you do.
No hope will ever be forthcoming.

Timothy Kincaid

October 4th, 2010


At BTB we DO NOT advocate for violence.

Rob Tisinai

October 4th, 2010

I agree Timothy. The wonderful Sean Chapin posted this comment over on my blog (where I cross-posted this article):

Here’s a vehicle for everyone to do something with their anger:

Make It Better Week Of Action:

– Attend or organize an event in your area to stand up for safer schools.
– Call Congress to pass safe schools legislation on Oct 11, National Coming Out Day.

More on Make It Better Project here:


October 4th, 2010

This really isn’t anything new that we are hearing from anti-gay folks. Some have always asserted that it isn’t homophobia that contributes to glbt folks committing suicide, but rather the condition of the glbt “lifestyle” itself. And then, of course, there are those few who try to deny that anti-gay rhetoric in the political and social arena does not affect the psyches of glbt people. Maybe one day these people will wake up and realize that words (when repeated constantly) do impact people.


October 4th, 2010

Oh, I think they know that already. They know exactly what they’re doing, and the only reason they ever even try to cover their asses is because, like most bigots, they realize their behavior is not acceptable to the majority of people.

Seamus Ruah

October 4th, 2010

Vox Day, the man who said that only fear of God keeps him from going on a rape/killing spree.

Can we (as a species) shun this Ftard already?


October 4th, 2010

All CHRISTIANS who do not support gay equality are complicit in these suicides, albeit to varying degrees.


October 4th, 2010

Stefan, on a side note to your comment…

I’ve always wondered if the rights of black people would have occurred in the 1960s if it wasn’t for the violence and the riots that got white people’s (and Pres. Kennedy’s) attention.

I’m NOT advocating violence, but maybe part of the reason we GLBT folks do not have our rights even with greater understanding from a growing number of hetersexuals is because we have chosen the law-abiding, civil way to seek our civil rights.

Just some food for thought…


October 4th, 2010


Please, perish the thought. That would be all the bigots need.

BTW, Timothy, I went to Vox’s column….Sweet Jesus in Heaven! Those people are anything but Christian at World Net Daily. The comments and the disciples of this guy(Vox) exuded nothing but the most putrid pride and hate.

All I can do is pray for those people.


October 4th, 2010

These bigots are almost enough to make me wish hell existed.


But… Purgatory—for a HELL of a long time! [Their purgatory will be as cage-dancers for all the gay bachelor/bachelorette parties (prior to the Gayest Weddings) in Heaven!]


October 4th, 2010

All CHRISTIANS who do not support gay equality are complicit in these suicides, albeit to varying degrees.

Agreed, Eshto (along w/ gay-equality deniers of every/no faith!).

Thank God, more and MORE Christians support LGBT equality every day!


October 4th, 2010

I was born Gay, and I believe I was born with Christ in my heart as well.

That’s what I always say to them….it’s fun to watch their eyes twitter and blink at the comprehension of this. It is completely out of their box. They can’t handle anything that doesn’t end in “Amen, brother.” They don’t pray to a magnificent, infinite Christ as I do. They pray to the Bible instead. The religion of Christianity is their God.

Shannon Drury

October 5th, 2010

I always said that “family values” to these creeps means MY family is valued, not yours. My heart breaks for these kids and their families, but I suspect Everett may be on to something….people are realizing that bigotry has a body count. May these losses not be in vain.


October 5th, 2010

Jim (Burroway), I love the graphic in this article. Can I post it on my blog, with proper attribution, of course?

Rob Tisinai

October 5th, 2010

Hey Publius, I’m the author of the article and creator of the graphic. You’re welcome to post it on your blog (with attribution, of course).

Jim Burroway

October 5th, 2010

Yeah, Rob is the terrific graphics guy. I’m just the misspelled werd guy.


October 5th, 2010

Emily K – If anger renders you useless, then by all means refrain. For many, and indeed for movements of social justice, anger is a vital ingredient. It moves people to action. And that is the point.

Empress Divine

October 5th, 2010

if Jesus Christ came back today, He would be disappointment at some Christians. He preached love, and unless u can love another human regardless of their race, religion or sexual orientation, then you have no business preaching the gospel of christ. I am straight but I am in support of equal rights and justice for LGBTs.


October 5th, 2010

Great work, as usual, Rob. Passing it on.

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