If saying so is conveying information, it might not be. If its Intended as a reprimand as part of a path to redemption, it might not be.

But as a tool of contempt used only for the purpose of expressing one’s loathing for another, then of course it is hateful.

If someone uses the word ‘Jebus’, is that hate? One would think so, if the opinions expressed in these pages are correct.

On this one I couldn’t think of a single possible usage that didn’t include a desire to show animus.

I agree that the word “hate” has meaning and should not be used indiscriminately. I reserve it for those times in which it seems to be the only clear driving factor.

I think perhaps there is a bit of disconnect on your part. And I’m going to make a couple guesses.

You think that hating is bad. And, unless I’m mistaken, you are likely among those who think being a hater is one of the wort things one can be and will use that title as a slur. (and I apologize if I got that wrong.)

But if im reading your comment correctly you still want to engage in the practice. But not have it called hate.

When Linda Harvey directs it our way it’s HATE and she’s a HATER. But if we do it, then it’s, well, something else.

But I have a question for you: if it isn’t bad when we do it, then doesn’t that mean that it’s not bad when they do it as well? Maybe hating is a perfectly fine thing to do?

Perhaps the next time you say, “he’s a hater”, you might add “which is a fine thing to be.”

And honestly it might be. I don’t care if someone hates gay people so long as they have a philosophical understanding of equality and support my rights. And I don’t mind if you hate them back … So long as you dont articulate that hate at BTB.

That’s what Queerty is for.

But – that doesn’t mean we forget. And the consequences of reprehensible behaviour are damaging and often times long-lasting.

I don’t get a sense that this man really understands the damage he’s caused. Time will tell. And who am I to judge?

I wish him well and hope he finds a path to living with real authenticity and integrity.

It seems to me that there is no clear agreement about the meaning of the word ‘hate’ as its used here. We need to be more careful with the term or it will become just a way to rebuke those who disagree with our particular view.

Also, not to start a fight with timothy because I know his views, but lehman really annoys me. “Am I supposed to embrace higher taxes because we’re gay? Am I supposed to embrace big labor and additional regulatory authority because I’m gay? Then why the groupthink and the presumption if one is gay they should be in one political party?” The modern gop is strongly anti-gay and anti-marriage equality is still a key platform in many states. I could go on a triad about how she wants big business to be able to pollute, but I won’t. Although to be fair it’s not gop vs democrats on this, but more liberals vs conservatives.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/03/28/kathryn-lehman-doma_n_1341775.html?ref=mostpopular,gay-marriage#comments

This whole article is a perfect example of the corrosive nature of the closet, how it perverts, degrades, debases and destroys everything it touches. Kathryn Lehman has yet to say ‘I was wrong.’ she has yet to admit that she was quite well aware of who she was, and what she chose to see instead of what was clearly in front of her. She said that people whom she knows have no problem with her personally being gay, but nowhere does she say she challenged them on why they cannot apply those simple truths to other people they don’t know, know nothing about, and who have done them no harm.

I am all for forgiveness. But with forgiveness must come atonement and the acceptance of responsibility. She’s still trying to avoid her responsibility, hoping that atonement will be sufficient for forgiveness.

I applaud her efforts to undo the damage. But she’s still trying to have it both ways. Her every comment is still, ‘But how was I to know?’

You still have a long way to go, lady. Good luck with it.”

I don’t know what the solution is but my own personal view is that the slimy, sleazy hate-filled person has not changed in any meaningful way.