Unfortunately, this is another illustration that the single biggest vector for sexual abuse is access, which is why about 75% ofthe time, the child knows the molester, who is half the time the father or step father or father surrogate.

I’ve known only two gay men in my life who were molested as children. One was my late partner, who like you, was molested by his father, who also molested his older sister. The other one was a gay man who was raped repeatedly by his father who wanted to show him what being a faggot would get him. He had made his peace with it, but would have nothing to do with dad.

Priya Lynn is correct. Your response illustrated the danger of not considering the fact that there are always some new readers here who wouldn’t know that I’m gayer than gay.

I’m so sorry about your horrific childhood. You must be a very strong person to have been able to move on and thrive. I hope your four siblings are doing well.

I’m sorry to hear about the abuse. It’s sickening and I hope you have made peace with your past.

However, if by “extreme actions” you are hinting at violence, please know that at BTB we oppose violence. We do NOT advocate for actions of that sort nor do we allow others to advocate for violence at this site.