I think, as someone who has engaged in poking people with a stick because I derived pleasure from it (and because, of course, they needed to know how very wrong they were), I recognized behavior I had come to find, in myself, not entirely productive or as mature as I wanted for myself. I’m not talking about honest feedback, I’m talking full-blown snark with a side of extra clever – there’s a difference. Ultimately, that felt like navel gazing. Except when I showed my work off to others. Then it felt self-congratulatory. It’s having inhabited that space that resulted in my very specific reaction to your piece. It felt very familiar.

Feedback is precisely that – something to take under consideration. My typical hope is to avoid functioning as a censor, or someone who causes someone to unnecessarily self-censor. Self-edit? Well, that’s a fine distinction, isn’t it. Eyes of the beholder and all that.

As ever, keep doing what you do, and keep keeping your ears open. When I have a gut reaction, I’ll poke my head in. Integrate that to the extent that you see fit. Thanks!

I can understand how this sort of smirky jab at LifeSite isn’t your cup of tea. But it isn’t exactly an pointless commentary. I don’t want the silencing tactics of those who oppose us to go unnoted. It says a great deal about the way of thinking that is endemic at anti-gay sites.

I could have written a very serious and angry commentary denouncing their methods and exposing their hypocrisy. But, frankly, I get bored with a constant diet of indignation. I get bored reading it and I get bored writing it. Maybe I’m just not a serious enough guy.

So, from time to time, I go to humor – or, at least, my brand of humor. The result can be my Wackadoodle series or my Box of Rocks candidacy. Or it could be more snarky, like this one.

But, as I said, it’s the trade off. In addition to the occasional commentary that is too self-congratulatory, I do also write about some subjects from a perspective that I don’t think gets much voice.

I’m glad you enjoy some of what I write; I’m sorry you don’t enjoy other parts. And, as I said above, I do appreciate feedback – it gives me perspective in those times in which I go off the rails (and, yes, I know that I do go off the rails from time to time).

But I’m definitely going to disappoint from time to time. I’m not exactly conventional in my thinking so I am almost certain to annoy everyone at some point. And there will be times when I don’t come across as I intended (and when what I intended isn’t all that great).

And while the site isn’t about Jim or Me or Rob or Daniel or Gabe, and while I’m probably not going to share my recipe for rustic chicken lasagna or my views on the differences in California and Federal tax treatment of real estate professionals, I do intend on incorporating my personal history a bit more into some of the commentaries I write. I’ve been involved in CA gay politics for a long time, have some extremely unique experiences, and would hate for it all to disappear with me.

Also, can we keep women in separate bathrooms at large crowded events? I’m not too keen on giving away our quicker relief lines at concerts & sporting events.

In the meantime I just hope they start putting sofas in the men’s rooms too.

But hey, I stood up to one of the moronic board members on my HOA last night, I just didn’t post the interchange online and solicit comments.

From the “about us” page: “This website is not about me, it’s about you.” This was definitely about you.

Not condemning you, but thinking that it seemed a little “hey, look what I did” for my tastes. It felt a little juvenile to me. Generally, we all do better than tweak our opponents’ noses and run back and brag to our friends about it. Think of it as someone who reads you regularly, thinks well of you, and thinks this didn’t reflect what I’m used to seeing of you.

That’s my reaction, since you include a comments section which implies a request for comment the way an open door implies an invitation to enter. I come by it honestly.

Oddly enough, I think it’s good ol’ capitalism that will finally kill that “ooooh, a man in the women’s bathroom” bugaboo. It is cheaper and more convenient to have centralized washing and stalls that are available based on need, not on sex.

And with the change in need (men who take their kids potty or change them) along with the economic costs of duplication of services, companies will have an epiphany and save themselves cost while simultaneously being “sensitive”. It’s a win-win.

But I do have one question. It is my impression (though I might be mistaken) that a significant purpose of having separate bathrooms back in the 50′s was for women to have a lounge area to go get away from the men for a while. (Okay, that’s based on movies and books and may be totally fictional). But I have observed that at a restaurant or club, women often will go to the bathroom together and sort of got the sense that it is an escape to talk together.

Women, am I way off base on that? Will that change in any way as bathrooms return to being more unisex?

But, we are talking about people who just have to make something out of literally nothing to smear the gender variant and teh gay.
I mean, just the aforementioned changes alone regarding public facilities that have gotten by these people truly DOES make them look like hysterical idiots!

And AFTAH’S and Ruth Blog (now no one can comment) and BOND’s site. That site is run by Rev. Jesse Lee Petersen. Oh, and DL Foster is none to fond of me either.
Sarcasm, facetiousness, irony…COMPLETELY lost on the usual suspects.
They take hyperbole, lying, misinformation, myth and defamation VERY seriously because THAT is the manure THEY like to spread. And of course, that type of manure has to trump anything else.

Any of our typical comment threads are FAR more informed, congenial, intelligent and well articulated than their’s are.
As I said, after a while, they sound clinically paranoid, or brain damaged by it.
Either way, they are dangerous and fully believe they have a right to be.
Which is weird too.

Well, for one thing, he’s a liberal. And all liberals deny God. And the Bible says in Romans that if you deny God he’ll turn you into a homosexual.

“Jesus made me a homosexual.”

“If I buy the yarn, can he make me one, too?”

Badump Bump Chhhh!