Posts Tagged As: Aging

Aged to Perfection

Jim Burroway

July 26th, 2012

The AARP has an entire section of its web site dedicated to LGBT issues, including this “Gay Man’s Guide to Dating After 50“:

The truth is that you’ve earned your age. You really can own it. Focus on what you’ve gained — rich experiences, accomplishments, survivor skills and wisdom. Your next romantic partner will benefit from all of that, and from your passions for the life that’s in front of you.

Good advice for those of you — those of us — who are now of a certain age, regardless of whether we’re dating or not. I don’t know about you, but I’m finding 51 to be a lovely age.

Bush Signs Law Protecting Retirement Savings for Gay Couples

Jim Burroway

December 26th, 2008

President George Bush on Tuesday signed into law the Worker, Retiree and Employer Recovery Act of 2008 (WRERA). This act requires employers to allow employees to roll their retirement plans over to unmarried partners. Before now, a similar provision of an earlier act was optional:

The Worker, Retiree and Employer Recovery Act of 2008 (WRERA), signed by President Bush today, contains technical corrections to the Pension Protection Act of 2006 (PPA). PPA made it possible for employers to allow any nonspouse beneficiary of an employee’s retirement plan—including an employee’s same-sex partner—to roll inherited retirement benefits directly to an individual retirement account (IRA) and avoid immediate taxation. WRERA requires that all employers provide this rollover opportunity to nonspouse beneficiaries.

Employers will be required to make this rollover available on January 1, 2010.

NY Times: “Aging and Gay, and Facing Prejudice in Twilight”

Jim Burroway

October 9th, 2007

Bruce Steiner, 76, left, helped feed his partner, Jim Anthony, 71, who has Alzheimer's diseaseThe New York Times has an impressive article about the pressures elderly gays and lesbians feel to go back into the closet during their final years. The opening paragraphs tell a common story:

Even now, at 81 and with her memory beginning to fade, Gloria Donadello recalls her painful brush with bigotry at an assisted-living center in Santa Fe, N.M. Sitting with those she considered friends, “people were laughing and making certain kinds of comments, and I told them, ‘Please don’t do that, because I’m gay.'”

The result of her outspokenness, Ms. Donadello said, was swift and merciless. “Everyone looked horrified,” she said. No longer included in conversation or welcome at meals, she plunged into depression. Medication did not help. With her emotional health deteriorating, Ms. Donadello moved into an adult community nearby that caters to gay men and lesbians.

“I felt like I was a pariah,” she said, settled in her new home. “For me, it was a choice between life and death.”

Baby boomers in general are taking a hard look at late-life options for when their own health begins to fail, and many boomers aren’t too happy with the options they see. Gays and lesbians are no different. Fortunately there are new options for elderly gays and lesbians opening up in a few cities across America. And the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force is beginning to consult with general-population nursing homes on the special needs that gays and lesbians face.

See also:

Straights Invade Gay Retirement


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