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The Love That Will Finally Speak Its Name

Jim Burroway

September 3rd, 2007

Loraine BarrThat’s the title of a column in Newsweek by Loraine Barr who at 88 decided that it was finally time to publicly acknowledge the truth of her 44-year relationship:

Finally, after almost nine years since my beloved partner’s death, I am able to do what I could never have braved in earlier years: present myself herewith to the world as a lesbian, along with all the women who ask to be judged by the full facet of our characters.

Why am I now able to speak the unspoken? A friend at the retirement community where I live recently came out in the local and national newspapers. When I saw her do that, I thought, for heaven’s sake, nobody can fire me, I’m 88 years old, my parents are gone.

Still, I was frightened. It took me several days to put this essay in the mailbox. I owe a lot of credit to people who are comfortable enough in their own skins to say, “This is who I am.”

Shall I be haunted for trying to tell my story now, when many might still not wish to address it, or shall I, perhaps, be congratulated?

Don’t worry Ms. Barr, congratulations are definitely in order. Welcome out.

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Ken R
September 3rd, 2007 | LINK

I think its wonderful when the older generation comes out. It shows that gays and lesbians CAN have stable and long-term relationships.

It’s never too late to be open about who you are. Wonderful!

Emily K
September 3rd, 2007 | LINK

Indeed. 1000 huzzah’s for Loraine!

Jason
September 4th, 2007 | LINK

Congrats Loraine!

Martin Lanigan
September 4th, 2007 | LINK

“Love does not just sit there, like a stone; it had to be made, like bread, remade all the time, made new.” Ursula K. Le Guin.

Welcome home and congratulations Loraine!

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