“A Personal Attack on Myself and My Family”

Timothy Kincaid

September 3rd, 2008

The San Diego Union-Tribune has received a copy of an e-mail exchange between Doug Manchester, a large contributor to anti-gay marriage Proposition 8, and Paul Wilkins, his chief financial officer. In it Wilkins expresses concern about the financial impact that a boycott could have on Manchester’s hotel properties and offered suggestions as to how to diminish the threat.

Manchester had an interesting response

“I appreciate your rightful concern,” Manchester wrote in a July 29 response, but he added: “I am now really angry and I consider this a personal attack on myself and my family.”

What a telling example of the mindset that the anti-gay Culture Warriors have created in our country. The existence of my family is considered a personal attack on theirs. Even suggesting that they not put funds towards harming my family is a threat to their family.

Mr. Manchester may be a charming person. And his hotels, I hear, are lovely. But for as long as Doug Manchester defines the health and vitality of his family by the destruction and dismissal of my own, I’ll not contribute a cent to his business ventures nor in any way enrich his him or his clan.

Further, those in the San Diego area may wish to contact Fred Karger with Californians Against Hate and set aside some time towards reminding Mr. Manchester that one isn’t entitled to become indignant when one’s attack on other families and their freedoms are questioned.


September 4th, 2008


In what universe does calling out Manchester’s attack on our families constitute an attack on his family?

How warped.


September 5th, 2008

I really think people like that won’t stop until we are all dead or converted to self-loathing closet-case “Christians”.

Seriously people, get a life! My family is no threat to yours. Sheesh.

Robert O\'Brien

September 8th, 2008

I’m sure he’s quaking. I suggest dropping your sense of entitlement. If you want gay “marriage,” then get off of your lazy arse and do the hard work of passing an amendment. Using an activist judiciary to subvert the democratic process is illegitimate.

Jason D

September 9th, 2008

“Using an activist judiciary to subvert the democratic process is illegitimate.”

In America, we have this system of checks and balances, you should look into it. It’s not subverting the democratic process, it’s part of it.

The Constitution and Bill of Rights aren’t optional. They’re the basis for our government and any law that flagrantly violates those two documents has a good chance of being struck down.

Marla Stevens

November 12th, 2008

The mood that Manchester’s H8 has left me in, he should be worried.
The fun part is that I have the rest of my life to get even — even if that’s just watching the positive effects of simple attrition mount up.
— No More Mrs. Nice Gay

Chris Pell

November 18th, 2008

Fellow member of DIA (the Drug Information Association) holding one of SD’s largest 2009 Conventions – Please boycott these hotels.

If you work for a Pharma/Biotech/Medical Device, or Contract Research Organization please stay elsewhere.

We have cancelled our reservations at the Hyatt – please do the same.


November 19th, 2008

Why would naming Pro Prop 8 donors make people uncomfortable? They have the right to give money to whom they want but I have the right to boycott bigots like Doug Manchester. Too bad he doesn’t like the financial impact this will have on his business!! I for one and thrilled he is worried and the more people swing to the left the more the right businesses will suffer I make it my purpose in life to know where me and my partner’s money goes and we will not support any businesses who do not think we should have the same rights. Neither do my 3 straight sisters and brothers, my cousins, friends…..our reach is far and the money is deep so pro prop 8 supporters BEWARE.


January 30th, 2009

Im all for gay people being able to get married, and i think its okay to list the names of companies and people that donated, but individuals shouldnt have their addresses and phone numbers listed to the world. i think thats wrong.

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