Return of the Bride and Groom

Timothy Kincaid

October 7th, 2008

After same-sex marriage became legal in June, California revised the form to read “Party A” and “Party B” instead of “Bride” and “Groom”.

Anti-gay activists immediately leaped on the change as evidence of harm to heterosexuals. Which is nonsense.

But it appears that some folks missed being called a bride or groom on the form and so the state will revise the form to allow each party to tick a box for bride or groom if they so choose.


October 7th, 2008

Talk about special rights! There is absolutely no reason to add the words “bride” and “groom” to the form except to satisfy the sense of entitlement of heterosexuals (and, of course, to include language that gay people probably won’t feel they have access to). What nonsense.


October 7th, 2008

Well, at least it’s an easy solution to a non-problem. They will just have bride/groom listed as options on both sides and the respective party chooses which one applies to them.

It’s like the Bank of America deposit form. One single form for checking/savings deposits, you just circle which one you are depositing into.

Now all we need to do is defeat Prop. 8!

California – Vote “NO” on Prop. 8!
Arizona – Vote “NO” on Prop. 102! AGAIN!
Florida – Vote “NO” on Amendment 2!


October 7th, 2008

If having a correct descriptive term on a form that is more inclusive is somehow harmful, then heterosexual people are awfully delicate.


October 7th, 2008

Given the choice, I’d prefer Groom and Groom. Since there’s evidently now four options on the form, why not simply call a spade a spade?

Of course the heterosexualists won’t like the fact that their nice smart marriage forms have such an explicit reference to gays being allowed to marry.

Jerry Sloan

October 8th, 2008

Actually, as I read the story ion the Sacramento Bee, there will be at least three forms, bride and groom, husband and husband, wife and wife, and possibly for those who have no preference, party A and Party B


October 8th, 2008

No, I belive that it will still be just 1 (one) single form. Just with all of the various options listed on both sides of the form and then people can check/circle/underline, whichever one applied to them.

California – Vote “NO” on Prop. 8!
Arizona – Vote “NO” on Prop. 102! AGAIN!
Florida – Vote “NO” on Amendment 2!

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