Crate and Barrel’s ultimate wedded couple?

Timothy Kincaid

March 31st, 2010

Crate and Barrel has been running an Ultimate Wedding contest in which hopeful couples have been telling a bit about themselves and their ultimate wedding in hopes of winning $100,000. The winner is determined by supporters going online and voting for their favorite couple.

The store has been pushing this promotion in its window displays and is a big part of their current image campaign. With today as the final day for votes, the competition has narrowed to two couples who far outdistance the third place possibility:

  • In first place, with 21,135 votes, are Mary and Densey. Densey was a Chicago police officer who was paralyzed in an auto accident. Although they have already married in a civil ceremony, they want to have a dream ceremony in Mexico.
  • In second place, with 17,565 votes, are Gregory and Jonathan. Theirs is a classic “Boy meets boy, boy falls for boy, and boys get engaged” story. They want a a simple, but elegant affair at an outdoor vineyard in the DC area, which fortunately for them will now be legal.

Although separated by over 3,000 votes and with only 9 voting hours remaining, Gregory and Jonathan are in a surge. If votes continue as they have for the past hour or so, they may pull ahead.

I have sympathy for all of the contestants. And Densey’s story touches my heart.

But I also wonder at what impact it could have on our national discussion if a nation-wide chain were to recognize for their Ultimate Wedding a couple whose nuptials are dismissed by some as an attack on all that is good and wholesome.

If you would like to be part of this effort, you can vote here.

Timothy Kincaid

March 31st, 2010

Gregory and Jonathan are within 2,800 votes

Timothy Kincaid

March 31st, 2010


Richard Rush

March 31st, 2010

No, Gregory and Jonathan are still on the list! At 10:04 PM Eastern Daylight Time they had 18,926 votes. (I voted several hours ago.)

Richard W. Fitch

March 31st, 2010

Contest ends at 11:59 PM CT TONITE!!!
Vote, Share. They are super guys and both have compelling personal stories. Greg is a PhD Psychologist working with teen and college age LGBT youth. Jon was the victim of a hate crime in Boston in 2008. After his attacker pleaded guilty to nine charges but was release with no jail time, Jon decided it was time to speak to the issues facing him and others regarding hate in our society. I chat with both a couple times a day online and vouch for their sincerity in making this a statement about Equality and not just winning a contest, however thrilling that would be.


March 31st, 2010

The couple in first place are straight and have a heart-rending story. I wouldn’t mind coming in second to them.


March 31st, 2010

I tried to vote at 10:28 PST March 31st. After entering my address, they told me to wait for an email to vote. 15 mins later no e-mail. Just wondering if anyone else experienced this.


April 1st, 2010

Voting’s over – Gregory and Jonathan lost by 1233 votes: 20431 to 21664. That’s 5.7% – pretty close considering the couple in third place were trailing by 77%! And they did lose to a very worthy couple.

Richard W. Fitch

April 1st, 2010

They came in at a close 2nd for the popular vote. But that only accounts for 20% of the final score. The C&B panel of judges will evaluate the top ten in the popular vote as follows:

Originality and creativity of Entrant’s responses to the topics (50%);
How well Entry invokes and inspires Crate and Barrel’s lifestyle (30%);
Entry’s Ranking in public voting (20%) as follows: 1st–10th place in public voting will receive 10 points; 10th–20th place will receive 6 points; 20th–30th place will receive 4 points; and the remaining 20 Finalists will receive 0 points.


April 1st, 2010

I read a very interesting, and saddening article concerning a horrid blogger who posted disgusting comments about Gregory and Johnathan in hopes various Chicago police officers would sign on to Crate & Barrel and cast a vote in favor of the other lead couple. What is heartening about this article is the comments section, containing notes from both couples disavowing said blogger and encouraging each couple in the contest. (This article was written on 6 March 2010, while the voting was continuing.)

The article is located at


April 2nd, 2010

Gayness seems to have played a factor in the difficulty in voting for Gregory and Jonathan.

Holding a national propmotional contest with questionable reports that voting is delayed, cannot make connections, etc., well……No more shopping at the Crate for me, categorically, ever!


August 1st, 2013

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