‘Love In Action’ Graduate Jacob Wilson Gets Engaged

Daniel Gonzales

September 10th, 2010

Jacob Wilson has come a long ways in a short time.  In 2005 Jacob was coerced into attending Love In Action’s “Source” program (a residential ex-gay program) after his church discovered he was involved in a same-sex relationship with a minister from another local church.  Jacob was 19 and attended Love In Action at the same time as the Zach Stark controversy.  Since then Jacob has publicly spoken out about the harm he experienced in ex-gay programs though events such at Beyond Ex-Gay’s weekend of activism in Memphis in 2008.

Jacob and his fiancée Ben met through their fraternity at Iowa State, Delta Lambda Phi, an LGBT and progressive interest fraternity, and have dated for two years.

Jacob is currently a senior double majoring in political science and women’s and gender studies.  Ben completed his undergrad degree in computer engineering and is now a masters student in the same subject.

After Jacob graduates he plans to attend grad school and has yet to finalize what city they will be moving to.

Jacob proposed to Ben at a picnic over Labor Day earlier this week.

The fully legally recognized wedding ceremony will likely be held in Ames the summer of 2010 2012.  Ben is adamant there will be no drag performances at the reception.

Our congratulations to Jacob and Ben.


September 10th, 2010


Jim Burroway

September 10th, 2010

Oh my God Jacob! Congratulations!

Timothy Kincaid

September 10th, 2010

All the very best to Ben and Jacob

Jacob Wilson

September 10th, 2010

Thanks for the shout out and warm wishes Dan! Jim, I am thinking of wearing white, but not sure if that will be as ‘believable’ as I would like for it to be.


September 10th, 2010

I love a happy beginning. Hugs to you guys!!!


September 10th, 2010

“The .. ceremony will likely be held in Ames the summer of 2010.”

That would mean within the next 2 weeks.



September 10th, 2010

congratulations guys!

jacob, thanks for sharing your story… you and all the others who spoke out made a difference in my life. happier days ahead:-)


September 10th, 2010

“Jacob is currently a senior double majoring in political science and women’s and gender studies.”

That and $2…

But seriously, congrats!

Richard Rush

September 10th, 2010

Congratulations, Jacob, on having the courage to walk away from the darkness. And double congratulations to you and Ben on your wedding plans!


September 10th, 2010

I am very happy for this man finally finding his way to himself. Living an authentic life is much healthier than living a sham.

I was involved in an ex-gay religious group in the late 80’s. It didn’t work… quel dommage. Two of the guys from that group eventually hooked up with each other and they are still together 18 years later. They still look like they’re 25 too, the bitches.


September 11th, 2010

fiancé, not fiancée, or it turns the whole point of your article on its head! ;-)


September 11th, 2010

Congratulations guys!

A story with a real winner, rock on guys!

Tony P

September 11th, 2010

Just proves that ‘conversion’ therapy doesn’t work.

Congrats to both of you. I’m glad you’re doing well.


September 11th, 2010

I think that Lady Bracknell said it best when she said that she wasn’t in favor of long engagements because they give people an opportunity of finding out each other’s characters before marriage. Which she thinks is never advisable


September 11th, 2010

from Bull Durham:

Millie: Annie… do you think I deserve to wear white?
Annie Savoy: Honey, we all deserve to wear white.

Regan DuCasse

September 11th, 2010

Yay! Yay! Yay!
Jacob, congratulations to you and Ben! I’m so happy for you.
You’ll be amazed at how different you’ll feel.

The ss weddings I’ve attended have some political sentiment to them because it feels great at the moment you can actually marry, but also a bit tense as there are so many factions out there willing to pull the rug out from under your marriage.

But I know of no couple that doesn’t think this is a very big deal. Because it IS a big deal. Hard fought for, and hard won where it’s been won.

Therefore, in that picture, I see a pair of handsome WINNERS!
Love kinda does that for ya and looks like it to me from here.

All the best guys!


September 11th, 2010

Their relationship and upcoming marriage is the real Love in Action.

Congrats to the happy couple.

Audrey the Liberal

September 14th, 2010

“Jacob is currently a senior double majoring in political science and women’s and gender studies.” Is just lighting a pile of money on fire now considered gauche?

Rarian Rakista

September 16th, 2010

Grats, I wonder how long till there will be less of a need for identity-based fraternities and more of a profession-based set?

Leave A Comment

All comments reflect the opinions of commenters only. They are not necessarily those of anyone associated with Box Turtle Bulletin. Comments are subject to our Comments Policy.

(Required, never shared)

PLEASE NOTE: All comments are subject to our Comments Policy.


Latest Posts


Another Temporary Hiatus

Today's Agenda Is Brought To You By...

Today In History, 1971: Minnesota Couple Stake Claim To First American Same-Sex Marriage

Today's Agenda Is Brought To You By...

Today In History, 1954: "Perverts Vanish" From Miami

Born On This Day, 1907: Evelyn Hooker

Born On This Day, 1925: Fr. John J. McNeill

Featured Reports

What Are Little Boys Made Of?

In this original BTB Investigation, we unveil the tragic story of Kirk Murphy, a four-year-old boy who was treated for “cross-gender disturbance” in 1970 by a young grad student by the name of George Rekers. This story is a stark reminder that there are severe and damaging consequences when therapists try to ensure that boys will be boys.

Slouching Towards Kampala: Uganda’s Deadly Embrace of Hate

When we first reported on three American anti-gay activists traveling to Kampala for a three-day conference, we had no idea that it would be the first report of a long string of events leading to a proposal to institute the death penalty for LGBT people. But that is exactly what happened. In this report, we review our collection of more than 500 posts to tell the story of one nation’s embrace of hatred toward gay people. This report will be updated continuously as events continue to unfold. Check here for the latest updates.

Paul Cameron’s World

In 2005, the Southern Poverty Law Center wrote that “[Paul] Cameron’s ‘science’ echoes Nazi Germany.” What the SPLC didn”t know was Cameron doesn’t just “echo” Nazi Germany. He quoted extensively from one of the Final Solution’s architects. This puts his fascination with quarantines, mandatory tattoos, and extermination being a “plausible idea” in a whole new and deeply disturbing light.

From the Inside: Focus on the Family’s “Love Won Out”

On February 10, I attended an all-day “Love Won Out” ex-gay conference in Phoenix, put on by Focus on the Family and Exodus International. In this series of reports, I talk about what I learned there: the people who go to these conferences, the things that they hear, and what this all means for them, their families and for the rest of us.

Prologue: Why I Went To “Love Won Out”
Part 1: What’s Love Got To Do With It?
Part 2: Parents Struggle With “No Exceptions”
Part 3: A Whole New Dialect
Part 4: It Depends On How The Meaning of the Word "Change" Changes
Part 5: A Candid Explanation For "Change"

The Heterosexual Agenda: Exposing The Myths

At last, the truth can now be told.

Using the same research methods employed by most anti-gay political pressure groups, we examine the statistics and the case studies that dispel many of the myths about heterosexuality. Download your copy today!

And don‘t miss our companion report, How To Write An Anti-Gay Tract In Fifteen Easy Steps.

Testing The Premise: Are Gays A Threat To Our Children?

Anti-gay activists often charge that gay men and women pose a threat to children. In this report, we explore the supposed connection between homosexuality and child sexual abuse, the conclusions reached by the most knowledgeable professionals in the field, and how anti-gay activists continue to ignore their findings. This has tremendous consequences, not just for gay men and women, but more importantly for the safety of all our children.

Straight From The Source: What the “Dutch Study” Really Says About Gay Couples

Anti-gay activists often cite the “Dutch Study” to claim that gay unions last only about 1½ years and that the these men have an average of eight additional partners per year outside of their steady relationship. In this report, we will take you step by step into the study to see whether the claims are true.

The FRC’s Briefs Are Showing

Tony Perkins’ Family Research Council submitted an Amicus Brief to the Maryland Court of Appeals as that court prepared to consider the issue of gay marriage. We examine just one small section of that brief to reveal the junk science and fraudulent claims of the Family “Research” Council.

Daniel Fetty Doesn’t Count

Daniel FettyThe FBI’s annual Hate Crime Statistics aren’t as complete as they ought to be, and their report for 2004 was no exception. In fact, their most recent report has quite a few glaring holes. Holes big enough for Daniel Fetty to fall through.