It Gets Better: From a BTB Reader

Jim Burroway

October 4th, 2010

Ben Mathis, who comments regularly on BTB, contributed this video to Dan Savage’s It Gets Better project:

I love BTB readers! You can contribute your message of encouragement and support here.


October 4th, 2010

good job Ben!


October 4th, 2010

So that’s what Ben looks like. Handsome man and in Iceland too, eh? I saw this one last night but didn’t know who it was at the time. I’m enjoying some of these videos, nice encouragement even for those of us much older than their intended audience.

Chris McCoy

October 4th, 2010

Yay! Great post.

Jason D

October 4th, 2010

good job Ben! I’m so glad I did a video too.


October 4th, 2010

Thanks to BTB for backing the It Gets Better project and posting some of the vids. I’ve watched a whole lot of the IGB vids and have been inspired and deeply touched by the posters’ spirit of giving and wanting to help, their need (in many cases) to testify to the cruelties they have suffered and witnessed, and their pride at having emerged alive and, surprisingly often, as open, honest, happy, successful, human beings. Today’s vids by Ron Fellows and Ben Mathis are wonderful!


October 4th, 2010

(continued) as are those by Miriam, Brendan, Brian and Rev. Sprinkle, and so many others.


October 5th, 2010

My church, a United Church of Christ, is getting ready to do one of these videos to let gay kids of faith know that it gets better for them too.


October 6th, 2010

Right from the heart, Ben. Thank you.

Ben Mathis

October 7th, 2010

Thanks guys, it was a bit nerve wracking to put this out on the internet for all to see, but I’ve actually already gotten an email from someone who it helped and we are talking. I’m the first they’ve ever told they were gay. That made it all worth it to me if I can help a single person.

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