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Featured Reports
What Are Little Boys Made Of?
In this original BTB Investigation, we unveil the tragic story of Kirk Murphy, a four-year-old boy who was treated for “cross-gender disturbance” in 1970 by a young grad student by the name of George Rekers. This story is a stark reminder that there are severe and damaging consequences when therapists try to ensure that boys will be boys.
Slouching Towards Kampala: Uganda’s Deadly Embrace of Hate
When we first reported on three American anti-gay activists traveling to Kampala for a three-day conference, we had no idea that it would be the first report of a long string of events leading to a proposal to institute the death penalty for LGBT people. But that is exactly what happened. In this report, we review our collection of more than 500 posts to tell the story of one nation’s embrace of hatred toward gay people. This report will be updated continuously as events continue to unfold. Check here for the latest updates.
David Benkof: Behind the Mask
At first glance, David Benkof appears to be a young gay man who believes that same-sex marriage will damage the institution of marriage, that there are better options for gay couples than marriage, that the community should join him in prioritizing other more pressing issues, and that the marriage discussion is harming the efforts of gay couples in red states to get recognition for their unions. He also claims that he’s a gay columnist, that he speaks for an influential collection of gay thinkers, and that he is part of the gay and lesbian community and that he shares our goals and dreams. But none of that is true.
“Repeat After Me”: The Reparative Therapy Echo Chamber
The April 2008 edition of the pay-to-publish vanity journal Psychological Reports featured a new report from NARTH. Written by NARTH president A. Dean Byrd, past president Joseph Nicolosi, and Richard W. Potts, the report carries the unwieldy but self-descriptive title, “Clients perceptions of how reorientation therapy and self-help can promote changes in sexual orientation.” While the title describes what the authors meant to show — how clients describe the benefits of reparative therapy — the report itself actually illustrates something very different: the ex-gay movement’s remarkable ability to instill an almost robot-like parroting of ex-gay rhetoric among their clients.
Testing the Premise: Is MRSA The New Gay Plague?
The Toronto Star said that a new study “discover[ed] a new strain” of a super-bug “hitting gay men.” Headlines in Britain screamed, “Flesh-eating bug strikes San Francisco’s gay community,” and anti-gay extremists across America spread the alarm that gays were introducing another plague into “the general population.” But there was a small problem with all of this: None of it is true!
Paul Cameron’s World
In 2005, the Southern Poverty Law Center wrote that “[Paul] Cameron’s ‘science’ echoes Nazi Germany.” What the SPLC didn”t know was Cameron doesn’t just “echo” Nazi Germany. He quoted extensively from one of the Final Solution’s architects. This puts his fascination with quarantines, mandatory tattoos, and extermination being a “plausible idea” in a whole new and deeply disturbing light.
From the Inside: Focus on the Family’s “Love Won Out”
On February 10, I attended an all-day “Love Won Out” ex-gay conference in Phoenix, put on by Focus on the Family and Exodus International. In this series of reports, I talk about what I learned there: the people who go to these conferences, the things that they hear, and what this all means for them, their families and for the rest of us.
Prologue: Why I Went To “Love Won Out”
Part 1: What’s Love Got To Do With It?
Part 2: Parents Struggle With “No Exceptions”
Part 3: A Whole New Dialect
Part 4: It Depends On How The Meaning of the Word "Change" Changes
Part 5: A Candid Explanation For "Change"
The Heterosexual Agenda: Exposing The Myths
At last, the truth can now be told.
Using the same research methods employed by most anti-gay political pressure groups, we examine the statistics and the case studies that dispel many of the myths about heterosexuality. Download your copy today!
And don't miss our companion report, How To Write An Anti-Gay Tract In Fifteen Easy Steps.
Testing The Premise: Are Gays A Threat To Our Children?
Anti-gay activists often charge that gay men and women pose a threat to children. In this report, we explore the supposed connection between homosexuality and child sexual abuse, the conclusions reached by the most knowledgeable professionals in the field, and how anti-gay activists continue to ignore their findings. This has tremendous consequences, not just for gay men and women, but more importantly for the safety of all our children.
Straight From The Source: What the “Dutch Study” Really Says About Gay Couples
Anti-gay activists often cite the “Dutch Study” to claim that gay unions last only about 1½ years and that the these men have an average of eight additional partners per year outside of their steady relationship. In this report, we will take you step by step into the study to see whether the claims are true.
The FRC’s Briefs Are Showing
Tony Perkins’ Family Research Council submitted an Amicus Brief to the Maryland Court of Appeals as that court prepared to consider the issue of gay marriage. We examine just one small section of that brief to reveal the junk science and fraudulent claims of the Family “Research” Council.
Review: The Gay Report
When Karla Jay and Allan Young published The Gay Report in 1979, it quickly a favorite source of statistics for many anti-gay extremists. But before you accepts these statistic at face value, you should examine the inner workings of this survey very carefully. What you learn might surprise you.
Daniel Fetty Doesn’t Count
The FBI’s annual Hate Crime Statistics aren’t as complete as they ought to be, and their report for 2004 was no exception. In fact, their most recent report has quite a few glaring holes. Holes big enough for Daniel Fetty to fall through.
Frijondi
October 15th, 2010 | LINK
Someone really should do a takedown of the notion of “sexual confusion,” a favorite of both the religious right and well-meaning but dumb quasi-supportive drips. Has anyone, in all of human history, ever been “confused” about who they were attracted to? Even those much-maligned bisexuals know that when they’re attracted to someone, they’re attracted to someone, and that that someone belongs to a particular sex. It’s pretty damned clear.
What may not always be so clear is how to live with the social penalties one pays for not being heterosexual. The coping mechanisms people adopt, like convincing oneself that a deep, platonic regard for a member of the opposite sex is really romantic love, are not the same thing as confusion.
It’s not that different from the way some people convince themselves to stay in other situations they hate (law school, for example). Deep down, they generally know exactly what kind of games they’re playing with themselves, but the alternative seems to come at too high a social price.
Emily K
October 15th, 2010 | LINK
unfortunately, I think that Turing was into having sex with a 19 year old boy (he was in his late 30′s or early 40s). Although I know this is “legal,” it really doesn’t thrill me when a gay man is outed because he is having sex with a kid. (yes, I consider 19-year olds to be kids, legal status or not, their brains are still gripped with the disease of adolescence we all face).
tim
October 15th, 2010 | LINK
@emily
I know many 19 year olds who are more mature than you are. They are perfectly capable of making decisions about their own lives.
And Turing killed himself not because of that encounter – it was because the state was making his life impossible to live.
Timothy Kincaid
October 15th, 2010 | LINK
Turing’s death was a loss to the world. What else could that brilliant mind have contributed had he not been tortured by the society that he rescued?
Last year, his nation apologized.
Akheloios
October 15th, 2010 | LINK
@Emily
I grew up near Manchester in the UK, in a park near the University there’s a statue of Alan Turing on his favourite Park Bench, the one he used to frequent when he was busy thinking.
The reason that he had trouble was that he’d gone to Scandinavia and met a young man, and started a relationship. The Intelligence Services found out about this relationship and were worried that this young man could have been a Soviet agent, or that the Soviets could have blackmailed him into giving them secrets.
Instead of doing the right thing and making an environment that made blackmail impossible and relationships much nearer to home possible. They decided that this man, who had done more than almost anyone to win WWII, needed to be prevented from having any relationships at all.
Eventually we came round in the UK and decriminalised homosexuality, but we’re still living with the stigma and possible blackmail threats to this day. We recently had a high level member of the government resign because he had made a fraudulent claim on his expenses to hide the fact he was living with his male partner.
To misquote Dan Savage, it’s gotten better, but it’s still not good enough. As for the young man being 19, what has that got to do with anything? The legal age of consent is 16 in the UK. Stigmatising a relationship between two people just because one is older than the other leads to exactly the same threat of blackmail that caused Alan Turing’s death.
Frijondi
October 15th, 2010 | LINK
Speaking as a someone born in the late sixties, I’ve noticed a huge shift over the last twenty years in the way US society views adulthood. It has far more to do with economics than with those studies that show the cortexes (cortices?) of people under 25 either lighting up, or failing to light up, in certain places. Until quite recently, people in their late teens routinely took on what we think of as adult responsibilities, and did just fine. Many still do, especially in other parts of the world.
But for some time now, it’s been difficult for anyone under thirty to achieve the same level of economic independence that was possible for even an eighteen-year-old high school graduate in the post-WWII period. The eighteen to thirty-somethings who move back in with the parental units aren’t perpetual adolescents, they’re young adults who have had to scale their lifestyles way back in order to live within their means. (And if some happen to be unemployed, and find solace in video games, who among you can cast the first stone?)
I have reservations about people who consistently seek out younger partners, because there are often economic and other differences that can create a difference in power. And there’s a certain type of manipulative creep who gets off on that. Common sense would also suggest that someone who’s had forty years to perfect being a manipulative creep will have an unfair advantage over someone who’s only had nineteen years of practice in recognizing people. If I knew a nineteen-year-old who was dating a forty-year-old, I’d wonder about a few things. I’d be concerned that the younger party might be missing some red flags due to limited dating experience. And I’d worry that if the older party turned out to be one of those manipulative creeps, (and sadly, there are a lot of them), the younger party might take it particularly hard, due to not having had time to develop a certain protective cynicism. But I’d wait and see. I would certainly not call that person an adolescent with a diseased brain.
Without knowing anything about the nature of Turing’s relationship with the young man, I wouldn’t assume it was exploitative. Simone de Beauvoir, on the other hand, seduced her seventeen-year-old student Bianca Lamblin, and then passed her off to Jean-Paul Sartre. And wrote about the affair in the most revolting, dehumanizing way possible. Now that, I have a problem with.
Frijondi
October 15th, 2010 | LINK
(In paragraph 3, it should read “recognizing such people.”)
Akheloios
October 15th, 2010 | LINK
There is certainly a difference between adolescent and post-adolescent brain function. The most up to date studies seem to show that the adolescent brain functions differently. It seems to be designed to see the world differently, to be more interested in new experiences, to learn quicker, and in the post-adolescent there is the creeping tendency towards conservatism (small c) that increases with age. As well as ability to exploit the experience of relationships that comes with age.
That said, the legal age limits are there for a very good reason, it stands as a marker to show when an individual ‘should’ be capable of making their own decisions without being easily swayed by a partner to do something they do not wish to do.
In most societies it is in the late teens, but there are societies where it’s simply puberty, which is simply a form of abuse as you cannot expect every child to able to exert their will and deny a more experienced and/or powerful partner.
But to push the age of consent into the twenties is simply an insult to nearly every young person. Of course there will be individuals that would still be incapable of exerting their will even well into their adult lives, but a line has to be drawn or else no-one would be able to engage in any form of sexual relationship, or any other form of relationship for that matter, whether it be employment, sexual or even friendship, without passing some kind of test; and there is copious evidence in history to show how tests can be manipulated to only give the result that that supports the existing status quo.
Emily K
October 15th, 2010 | LINK
NO, U
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Actually, I’m in my 20s. So.. not TERRIBLY much older than my late teens.
Hm, I make one comment and suddenly people accuse me of wanting to raise the age of consent. Interesting how defensive people get. Suddenly paragraphs-long comments are being made about the virtues of the under-twenty set. Okay then.
Akheloios
October 15th, 2010 | LINK
I don’t think it was the thought of you arguing for a rise in the age of consent annoyed me. What did upset me was the line ‘it really doesn’t thrill me when a gay man is outed because he is having sex with a kid’.
As ‘kid’ is synonymous with ‘child’ in the UK. It did sound like you thought that Alan Turing was a paedophile, and that really hits home at the moment, especially since the right winger in the UK were arguing exactly that when they argued against the equalisation of the age of consent laws. They basically said that if man has sex with a 16 year old girl, that’s fine, but if a man has sex with a 16 year old boy, he’s a paedophile.
It’s the gay version of the Blood Libel. That we’re all paedophiles looking to seduce boys and girls who don’t know any better, to turn them to our ‘lifestyle’.
Alan Turing for whatever faults he may or may not have had was a great man, and a person no matter who they are having sex with a fully aware consenting adult of 19 is perfectly fine.
David
October 15th, 2010 | LINK
It’s a bit pathetic to see how quickly the lunatic religious right picks up on the words of people like Tony Perkins and starts parroting them as if they’re the gospel truth and beyond question.
In the days after Tyler Clementi killed himself, Perkins (showing how low class he is) said something to the effect that Clementi killed himself because he knew inherently that being gay was disordered and shameful. It couldn’t be that he felt an overwhelming invasion of privacy, or that he was a shy kid who reeled at the thought of his sex life being broadcast on the internet, or that he was bullied, or that he might have a disapproving and judgmental church and family, etc., etc.
With remarkable speed, comments nearly verbatim to those of Perkins started showing up on freerepublic.com and other right wing website as statements of absolute fact.
What a pathetic bunch.
a.mcewen
October 15th, 2010 | LINK
I read somewhere that he killed himself that way for possibly two reasons: his favorite story was Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs and so that his mother could plausibly say that he died accidentally so she wouldn’t feel that maybe she didn’t do something to prevent his suicide.
Tone
October 15th, 2010 | LINK
I’ve always thought Alan Turing’s story was one of the saddest and most tragic that I’ve ever known. A true genius, in the same league as Tesla, Fermi, and Einstein. The Turing Machine, took input, did processing and provided output, the classic definition of a computer.
Who knows what our world might look like today had he not been so tortured by a society that condemned him. And the very bigoted society that he saved and served, so intolerant of him that he took his life, would have been the beneficiary of his genius.
Le repassage est tragique
To learn more about the professional life of Alan Turing, and about the earliest history of computing machines, “Engines of the Mind” is an excellent read. Published in 1981 it precedes the popularization of the home computer.
darkmoonman
October 16th, 2010 | LINK
@Emily: just so ya know, many of us at 19 were looking for older men because we liked the mature outlook that our fellow teens lacked – just like when a 19 year old girl dates & marries an older man. Stop trying to make it into something dirty.
grantdale
October 16th, 2010 | LINK
I think some of you may have missed what Emily was trying to do.
In a post, well worthy of Timothy and detailing the destruction of a decent man to whom we all owe so much, we got some detailed examples of ‘dog whistle’ verbalising from starlets such as Bryan Fischer, Peter Sprigg and Tony Perkins.
Emily followed up that by supporting what Timothy has said, and offered a subtle post for us all to ponder.
As Emily has reminded us, even if a gay man contributes more than his share to society he’ll always nevertheless be connected to child abuse. Somehow, and we all know he must be.
You have to admit — deeming a worldly 19 year old young man, who sought on several occasions the contact with Turing (and then robbed Turning’s house with a criminal mate) as an innocent ‘boy’ and a ‘kid’ and an ‘adolescent’ is of the highest form of humour. I’m sorry if some of you didn’t quite see that way.
I’m sure if Turing was here today he’d be chuckling along with us, and thanking Emily for her wry sense of the ridiculous.
Personally… Turing is a hero for me. I have adapted his concept of discovery by contradictions (and thereby eliminating falsehoods) on too many occasions to mention. It works brilliantly with the so-called testimonies of so-called ex-gays, as but one example.
grantdale
October 16th, 2010 | LINK
Sorry Rob, it was your post; not Timothy’s. Forgive me, the correction was lost in the cut and pastes of the edit.
John
October 16th, 2010 | LINK
“Sexually confused youth are pressured into locking into a sexual identity far before they are mature enough to do so.”
per Bryan Fischer of the AFA.
Does this apply to heterosexuality as well?
William
October 16th, 2010 | LINK
Yes, it does apply to heterosexuality as well. At least, that’s the the way Bryan Fischer and those of similar mentality want it to be.
andrew
October 16th, 2010 | LINK
Hey Emily… I’m 14 year younger than my partner and I’m VERY happy, thanks very much.
It’s also been pointed out in studies that when relationships are examined in detail — gay and straight — the category that is the most stable are age-divergent homosexual relationships.
So bite me. ppthtththththth
:)
(I’m being playful)
Donnchadh
October 17th, 2010 | LINK
As bad as the abuse was, Turing might not have committed suicide. It might have been exposure to cyanide he kept in his house for chemical processes. (Read it in a letter in Scientific American, I don;t remember the details well.)
As to the statistic that andrew gives, it strikes me that the effect could come from the doubly taboo nature of such relationships – reluctance to start of admit such a relationship would mean that those who are open with being in one are the most secure in them, whilst others suffer from being all too typical.
MIhangel apYrs
October 18th, 2010 | LINK
Turing’s sexuality would have been known to the security services and a blind eye turned all through his war service. Only when he became expendable was he totally shafted by the Establishment and hung out to dry.
A bit like DADT discharges AFTER returning from combat assignments.
brahms
October 27th, 2010 | LINK
How convenient that family reasons for homosexuality were left out of your parody. Turing was basically abandoned by his parents at birth and lived with various people during his childhood. He was visited by his father rarely -who lived in India. Distant, critical, and unloving father anyone?
Priya Lynn
October 27th, 2010 | LINK
Brahms, there is no evidence that distant fathers cause gayness. There is however a lot of evidence that gayness is partly genetic and biological in origin.
Timothy Kincaid
October 27th, 2010 | LINK
Brahms confuses anecdote with evidence.
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