The other option

Timothy Kincaid

June 7th, 2011

For Kirk’s mother Kaytee in the 70’s, there seemed to be only one responsible way to respond to Kirk’s gender atypical behavior. She sought out help from trusted authorities, doctors at UCLA, who promised that they could cure Kirk of his behavior and thus help him avoid a life of difference and difficulty.

But not every parent chooses to try and change their child; some decide to love them exactly as they are. To love them and to support them, care for them, protect them, and make them strong enough to claim their own place in the world.

One such mother writes a blog about her experiences with her four-year-old gender atypical boy. Raising my Rainbow (“adventures in raising a slightly effeminate, possibly gay, totally fabulous son”) is a real life, real time, honest expression of a gifted storyteller. It has also grown into a community of other moms who have, perhaps for the first time ever, a place to share and compare the parenting of kids who not only don’t fit the mold, but redecorate the mold in pink with sparkly glitter.

Timothy (TRiG)

June 7th, 2011

That blog is wonderful! Thank you for promoting it. I’m adding it to my feed reader.



June 7th, 2011

I’m also raising a very very feminine bio boy and have been reading your blog for a while. Glad you have made a connection to one of the supportive parenting blogs. Raising my rainbow is a great choice.


June 8th, 2011

I’ve followed Raising My Rainbow off and on for a while and have found it to be truly touching and inspiring. Thanks for featuring them.

Jamie Tripp Utitus

June 8th, 2011

Awesome job my friend!! PS-Raising My Rainbow, almost made me cry at the name alone…


June 9th, 2011

Thanks for including this link in conjunction with “And What are Little Boys Made of?”. After crying at the true despair of Kirk and beautiful “Mara’s (?)Eulogy”, I really needed the laughs!

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