If You Came Here From CNN…

Jim Burroway

June 15th, 2011

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It’s probably because you’re trying to figure out who that inarticulate guy was you saw on AC360. More specifically, you’re probably interested in our extensive report on the aftermath of four-year-old Kirk Murphy’s treatment by George Rekers in 1970. You can find that in our original investigation, “What Are Little Boys Made Of?”  And if you are interested in learning more about the so-called “independent investigations” which supposedly showed that Kirk’s treatment rendered him straight and mentally healthy, you can find out about that in our epilogue, “The Doctor’s Word.

One other thing. I mentioned the lack of resources for ex-gay survivors. I really do wish that there was a national hotline or a referral web site where people can find a local therapist who can help in recovering from the ex-gay experience. But there are at least a couple of resources I can recommend. First, there is the web site, Beyond Ex-Gay, where you can read personal testimonies from others who have gone through the experience and lived to tell the tale. It helps to know that you’re not alone, and the people who have posted their own stories on that site are proof that there really is life after ex-gay therapy.

And second, I heartily recommend Jallen Rix’s book, Ex-Gay No Way: Survival and Recovery from Religious Abuse. This book is an excellent resource from a San Francisco-based therapist who himself is an ex-gay survivor. He describes his journey from a Christian music minister at his church to an ex-gay struggler, to someone who has come out the other side and integrated his faith with all the other gifts God gave him, including his sexuality. And now his work is dedicated to helping others along the same path that he has been through. I think a lot of ex-gay survivors will recognize themselves in Jallen’s thoughtful book. It’s available in paperback and Kindle.

Update: If you are a therapist interested in resources in helping ex-gay survivors, the Association of Gay and Lesbian Psychiatrists is a good resource for you. Lay people, including ex-gay survivors, can also obtain help and information there.

Josiah

June 15th, 2011

Just to let you know: the link to the “What Are Little Boys Made Of?” series above points to an unrelated KTLA news story.

Jim Burroway

June 15th, 2011

Sorry about that. It’s fixed now.

Zaylinda

June 15th, 2011

Is it too much to hope for a clip of your interview?

TampaZeke

June 15th, 2011

Zaylinda, JoeMyGod has a clip up.

TampaZeke

June 15th, 2011

I would also point out that Box Turtle Bulletin friend Michael Bussee, one of the founders of Exodus, is a great resource for recovering “ex-gays”. He has a Facebook page called, Ex-ex-gay that would be a good first step for anyone looking for help with issues surrounding sexual orientation or recovery from “ex-gay” “therapy”.

ken

June 15th, 2011

Is the above clip all that aired on 360 last night?

Timothy Kincaid

June 15th, 2011

And, for those interested in tracking the Ex-Gay movement (and perhaps seeing what your old counselor is upto these days), there are two good sources:

Ex-Gay Watch (David Roberts)

Truth Wins Out (Wayne Besen)

Grandmère Mimi

June 15th, 2011

Jim, all things considered, you did quite well. :-) My hope is that many viewers will be led to read “What Are Little Boys Made Of?” Your reporting of the story is excellent, though the content is heart-wrenching. Still, the story is one that we need to know.

justme

June 15th, 2011

You are way too modest and it was a pleasure to see you get some of the recognition you deserve.

iDavid

June 16th, 2011

Ah so that’s what you look like! Great interview Tim, good statements, good going.

I work w men who have been sexually/romantically abused by their mothers. I am expanding to include religious sexual abuse so the book you mention is of interest. I’m going to give it a read.

Also, since there is a large gap in the exgay recovery thrapist sector, there is the segment of therapists who do work w cult survivors which could be very helpful as the gap of exgay therapists hopefully fills in more. There are many angles that are similar enough to produce positive results. Also a good general sex abuse therapist could be quite helpful.

More interviews Tim. You look good on camera.

Kerry

June 16th, 2011

I just read “The Doctor’s Word” piece and I hope and pray that you continue your investigation. Dr. Rekers is getting older and he is one of the few to carry so many secrets with him. Dear God I pray someone is able to get him to open up like the got Robert McNamara to do in that documentary “The Fog of War”. I have a feeling once Rekers loosens up, a lot of shocking stuff will come pouring out. We can’t let him go quietly into old age dementia without sharing the shameful, shocking, and outrageous things he did to young effeminate boys (while increasing his own feminine mannerisms exponentially).

Jack Johnson

June 16th, 2011

Your sis in law, Sarah, turned me on to the 360 piece last week. I don’t usually turn the TV from MSNBC but did on her rec. Glad I did. Great piece, very timely and necessary. Good work!

jack johnson

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