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Welcome Out Jodie Foster

Jim Burroway

January 13th, 2013

There was only one award in tonight’s Golden Globes which was pre-announced: Jodie Foster was honored with the Cecil B. DeMille Award for her 47 years in the entertainment industry. Her acceptance speech was the acceptance speech to end all acceptance speeches:

Beginning at 2:25:

There won’t be a big coming-out speech tonight, because I already did my coming out about a thousand years ago back in the Stone Age, in those very quaint days when a fragile young girl would open up to trusted friends, family, co-workers and then gradually, proudly to everyone who knew her, to everyone she actually met. But now apparently, I’m told that every celebrity is expected to honor the details of their private life with a press conference, a fragrance, and a prime time reality show. You guys might be surprised, but I am not Honey Boo Boo Child. No, I’m sorry. That’s just not me, it never was, and it never will be, but please don’t cry because my reality show would be so boring….

If you had been a public figure from the time you were a toddler, if you’d had to fight for a life that felt real and honest and normal against all odds, then maybe then you too might value privacy above all else. Privacy. Someday, in the future, people will look back and remember how beautiful it once was. I have given everything up there from the time that I was three years old. That’s reality show enough, don’t you think?

There are a few secrets to keeping your psyche intact over such a long career. The first: love people and stay beside them.

…There is no way I can stand here without acknowledging one of the deepest loves in my life. My heroic co-parent, my ex-partner in love but righteous soul sister in life, confessor, ski buddy, consilieri, most beloved, BFF twenty years, Cydney Bernard. I am so proud of our modern family, our amazing sons Charlie and Kit, who are my yreason to breathe and to evolve, my blood and soul. And boys, in case you didn’t know it, this song, like all of this, this song is for you.

She closed her speech with what might be a hint of a possible retirement:

This feels like the end of one era and the beginning of something else. Scary and exciting… and now what? Well, I may never be up on the stage again, on any stage for that matter. Change. You gotta love it. I will continue to tell stories, to move people by being moved — the greatest job in the world. It’s just that form now on I may be holding a different talking stick. And maybe it wont as sparkly. Maybe it won’t open on 3,000 screens. Maybe it will be so quiet and delicate that only dogs can hear it whistle, but it will be my writing on the wall: Jodie Foster was here. I still am. And I want to be seen, to be understood deeply, and to be not so very lonely.

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Lucrece
January 14th, 2013 | LINK

Why the resentment? Nobody put a gun to her head to come out. She reads like Sean Hayes in the petty way they respond to coming out conferences/confirmations.

You see no straight people keep the fact that they have a spouse “private”. You do not offer details about your spouse, but at least you don’t hide the fact that you have a spouse and are rarely seen publicly with him/her.

Timothy Kincaid
January 14th, 2013 | LINK

Lucrese,

I think the resentment is about the lack of privacy in general. Or that’s how I took it.

Ray
January 14th, 2013 | LINK

Yeah. That’s what I was thinking. Privacy. She still got stalked by those creeps with cameras.

gsingjane
January 14th, 2013 | LINK

I don’t really understand this… I must be missing something, but I do seem to recall Jodi Foster repeatedly denying that she was lesbian. To me that seems a little different than, “I was fragile and I came out to a few people close to me instead of the world at large.” I mean I don’t meant to jump all over the woman, she has the right to do what she wants and say what she wants, but I certainly don’t remember her being supportive when it could have done other folks some good…

iDavid
January 14th, 2013 | LINK

Mel looked like “huh? wtf. ur gay? but I’m Catholic! So ya didn’t find me sexy, huh. no wonder that movie we made together sucked”.
Have another drink there Mel.

What an amazingly riveting speech. Bravo to Jodi for coming right from her threads.

Fenris Wolf
January 14th, 2013 | LINK

For those who didn’t “get it”, read it over a few times, slowly: “I already did my coming out about a thousand years ago back in the Stone Age, in those very quaint days when a fragile young girl would open up to trusted friends, family, co-workers and then gradually, proudly to everyone who knew her, to everyone she actually met. But now apparently, I’m told that every celebrity is expected to honor the details of their private life with a press conference, a fragrance, and a prime time reality show.”

TO EVERYONE SHE ACTUALLY MET is “none of us commenting here,” actually. None of us keeping tabs of how many times she did or didn’t deny something – or what she did or didn’t do at what time for what group or individual(s). None of us feigning amusement, declaring that everyone had already known this, and it was, therefore, insignificant. And none of us who have never done the day in day out hard slog of acting/directing/producing for 47 years. “Nobody put a gun to her head?” Bravo, Lucrece! Given the events of the past month, and her personal history as the focus of a madman’s obsession, that little snippy bit of bitchery may be the most insensitive, ham-handed and inappropriate metaphor that could possibly have been employed. You give the title “Rape of Lucrece” an entirely new meaning.

Gene in L.A.
January 14th, 2013 | LINK

Coming out has never been an act done for other people. Why do we insist gay celebrities become “role models”? For how long has it been unspoken knowledge that Jodie Foster is gay? What in the world is there that demands we open ourselves to the public in our private lives, no matter who we are or what we do. For all the gods’ sakes, leave Jodie Foster alone. Her product is what we’re interested in, isn’t it? Why, because their livelihood is in front of us up on that screen, does it mean everything about movie stars must also be our property? It’s not, and we should stop expecting it to be.

Robert
January 14th, 2013 | LINK

Fenris Wolf,

To be fair to Lucrece, not everyone knows all about the Hinkley issue. Many many younger people know who she is, but do not know about the entire Hinkley aspect and his obsession with her and Taxi Driver.

Yes, gun to head analogy may be deemed insensitive, but for goodness sake, do you expect the entire english speaking world to do away with metaphors invlving guns? If so, I suggest you take it up with Vice President Biden before slamming commentators here. He recently said he “aimed” to have a recomendation on the Presidents desk by Tuesday, he also used the phrase “shooting for”. One cannot expect the metaphors of a thousand years to go by the way side because of a shooting. You are a tool to chastise someone then turn to your little quip about rape. Yeah, keep it classy.

Andrew
January 14th, 2013 | LINK

Terribly unimpressed. Her speech came across as whiny and more. No one required that she stay in the business that created the drama so early in her life – she chose to do that. And in so doing, she earned more than enough money to maintain her privacy as she saw fit. You want the money, you gotta play the game. She wants it both ways. And she wanted it thus with her sexuality as well – to profit from all the hard work of activists while protecting herself. Yeah, she’s a fine director, and she’s done some nice parts with roles (and some stinkers), and she’s freakin gorgeous… but the defensiveness etc. just struck me as profoundly ungrateful for such a remarkably privileged life.

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