Jim Burroway

November 26th, 2013

So this happened. A customer in a New Jersey restaurant stiffed waitress Dayna Morales of a tip on a $93.55 bill, and scrawled a note reading, “I am sorry but I cannot tip because I do not agree with your lifestyle.” Morales, who is lesbian and a Marine, posted a photo of the receipt on Facebook. She got lots of attention, and got lots of extra tips which she said she would donate to the Wounded Warriors Project, a worthy charity that provides services to wounded veterans.

Well, I guess I should say that this allegedly happened. The couple who supposedly stiffed Moralis has come forward with a copy of their receipt showing an $18 tip (that would be just under 20%, for those keeping tabs). They also provided a credit card statement indicating that the full $111.55 was charged to their account.

The couple told NBC 4 New York that they believed their receipt was used for a hoax. The wife says she is left-handed and could not have made the slash in the tip line, which she said looks to be drawn from the right.

“We’ve never not left a tip when someone gave good service, and we would never leave a note like that,” the wife said.

The husband said he and his wife have both worked in restaurants and believe in the value of tipping, and noted that he didn’t vote for Gov. Chris Christie because the governor doesn’t support gay marriage.

“Never would a message like that come from us,” he said.

…”I just felt like people have a right to know that — it’s fine if people want to donate to her or to the Wounded Warriors, but they’re doing it under a false pretense,” the wife said

Morales says the handwriting on the receipt is not hers and that she did not receive a tip. The restaurant says that it is launching an internal investigation.


November 26th, 2013

Oh dear.

Ben In Oakland

November 26th, 2013

Possibility 1. Morales is lying.

Possibility 2. the family is lying.

Possibility 3: someone else processed the charge, not morales. And was $18 richer for doing so.


November 26th, 2013

Ben in Oakland, the only possibility there is number one, unfortunately. If you hear hooves, don’t think “zebra”.

Paul Douglas

November 26th, 2013

You know, this kind of thing if true, does enormous damage to the credibility of those legitimately seeking social justice. Analogous to fake sexual harassment, rape or racial discrimination complaints, this leads many people to dismiss all such complaints as frivolous.
Very disconcerting.


November 26th, 2013

I actually shared this story after it was announced that she was contributing some portion of the extra donations to the project, because I thought it was a lovely example of what can be accomplished when people act in good will, rather than trying to harm each other. It is disconcerting to learn that it all may be a hoax, both to me personally, and to the “crying wolf” snowballing that Paul Douglas described.


November 26th, 2013

Wouldn’t be the first time some unscrupulous person cried “victim!” to take advantage of folks. It doesn’t happen too often, but often enough to make me skeptical of the high-profile cases like these until further proof comes forth. Hence why I said nothing about this story when it first came out.

Ben In Oakland

November 26th, 2013

Ryan, perhaps you could explain why #3 isn’t a possibility. I would certainly hope it is the truth.


November 26th, 2013

This story confuses the hell out of me, but this line stood out:

A manager and the restaurant owner insisted they had the original ticket for the $93.55 charge, but would not produce the receipt for NBC 4 New York and could not explain why the family’s credit card was charged for more.


November 26th, 2013

Worse still, I give this about 14.68 hours before the anti-equality rabble start to parade this around as indicative of all those seeking equality. This is just the kind of handle they look for and they will beat this horse for years to come.

Timothy Kincaid

November 26th, 2013

I didn’t like the smell of this from the start. It didn’t measure up to how real anti-gays actually act (which is often different from how our imagination says they act).

On the other hand, who still has a receipt for dinner from two weeks ago? This doesn’t smell much better.

Ben In Oakland

November 26th, 2013

Timothy– I could locate any receipt of mine in about ten minutes…

from the last 25 years!


November 26th, 2013

This has happened before with a black waitress, but unfortunately for her she had a sample of her own handwriting posted to her facebook page and she got $10K out of it. She stated that she wanted to use to receipt as an example of racism.


November 26th, 2013

And that’s why everyone get’s a copy. Should be relatively straight-forward to sort out.

On the other hand, who still has a receipt for dinner from two weeks ago?

Well, me. After glancing at the point of sale, they all go in a box and I reconcile them every 3-6 months with the electronic account statement. Anything that hasn’t appeared goes back into the box. A smaller box within the box actually. It takes very little time.

My accountant told me to do this many, many years ago; and yes I do find discrepancies at times (usually double-ups) … you of all people saw that coming didn’t you Timothy :)

Timothy Kincaid

November 26th, 2013

Ben and grantdale,

I input mine all into an app immediately and then check online to see if the right amount goes through. Then I shred them.

But that’s me.

I suspect most people toss them almost immediately.

Ben In Oakland

November 26th, 2013

Obviously, timothy, you’re not an anal retentive fussbudget.

Timothy Kincaid

November 26th, 2013

he he


November 26th, 2013

@Timothy: Not just a dinner, but a $115 dinner.

“It didn’t measure up to how real anti-gays actually act (which is often different from how our imagination says they act).”

In general, I agree. However, you can always find one or two oddballs who will do whatever crazy thing you can think of.

Mark F.

November 26th, 2013

Did the waitress announce she was a lesbian when she waited on them? If not, how did they know? (Yes, I have known straight woman who were a bit butch looking. I never assume anything.)

Marian L Shatto

November 26th, 2013

Add me to the list of those who could find any dinner receipt for the past year within 10-15 minutes. It would take a bit longer for past years, but I retain all receipts with my tax forms and shred everything after 7 years. And personally, I would lean toward Possibility #3. I would not be at all surprised if someone in the restaurant is stiffing the server.


November 27th, 2013

@Ben — plainly Timothy IS an ARFB (did you read what he does – none of this into the wallet, stuff in an old shoebox and look at it months later when you feel like it…) But he’s also plainly a technologically advanced ARFB.

Timothy, my accountant is a younger brother of Methuselah. I’m not even going to raise “apps” with him. (He is actually very good, but I have a sneaking suspicion I also enjoy being called ‘young man’ once or twice a year.) I’m sticking with Marian: an advancing series of files for 7 years, and then into the chipper. I’ve retained a ‘select’ few to make an awkward montage for our 50th anniversary. If I’m not crushed by the towering weight of them beforehand, that is.


OK. I do hoard. Stuff. Somewhere in a box in the shed is the receipt from our first dinner together – a hasty decision after an afternoon on Albert Park Lake that ended up at an late night eatery called Monroe’s in St Kilda. Complete with the obligatory photos of said Hollywood Star. Melbourne restaraunts closed early in them days. [switch to broadest Oz accent] Very classy it was. [end] And then we went and got blind as a welder’s dog at the Prince playing pool.

Gawd I miss the old days. Somewhat :)


November 27th, 2013

There was something similar this week also, I think it was out of Texas. The key to these fake stories I have found is when they write a gay slur on you. Those have almost always turned out to be fake. AND I REALLY wish people would STOP doing this.

I think the Texas one is a restaurant, a restaurant owner. I no longer assume these stories to be true but hang back and wait for verification. Once they are verified and preferable through the police then I will vent my outrage, not before.

Remember the Lesbians with the crap written on their garage door? Faked. Remember the lesbian who crawled over to her neighbors house after the “attack” (also with something written on her body, I don’t remember what), fake.

That Texas one I did NOT re-tweet. Gonna wait for further information.

Donny D.

November 27th, 2013

I’m going to wait until this is completely hashed out. Right now, I’m not convinced by any explanation for this.

But I do know that the anti-LGBTs will be using this as further proof that EVERY gaybashing is a hoax.

Donny D.

November 27th, 2013

Wow, speak of the devil. This was on only the second site I perused after writing my previous post:


November 27th, 2013

Straight Grandmother, I think the recent incident that you refer to as being from Texas was actually from Tennessee.

I agree that skepticism is needed. God knows there are enough real horror stories that we don’t need to be inventing fake ones.

The people who do are either deeply disturbed, have a need for attention, or have some pecuniary motive, such as the gay bar owner in Chicago who burned his building down and tried to pin it on haters. The first red flag in this case was when the waitress created a pay pal account and requested donations.

Timothy Kincaid

November 27th, 2013

grantdale… not fair. You can’t get all reminiscent this early in the day (my time) or I’ll be playing sad songs and drinking tea by noon, staring out the window and get nothing accomplished.

Great story, though.


November 27th, 2013

So apparently the waitress has a history of lying about major life events, including her military service.

The Journal News
Daily Caller

Still, anyone who uses this story to deny the reality of anti-LGBT harassment is already homophobic.

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