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  1. Lord_Byron
    April 18, 2014

    “this opens the door to child abduction and custody battles that can escalate and inflict terrible stress on the child. ”

    As you said Rob everything he complains about is not unique to same-sex couples, but the fact that he brought up child abduction when we have the case of Isabella Miller-Jenkins is just insulting.

  2. Neil
    April 18, 2014

    Lopez is fairly typical of the more concerted opposition to gay rights. He brings the anecdote of a closeted past to characterise an essence of gayness. In this view there is nothing socially constructed in how we live our lives. Lesbians will somehow always tend to marry men, divorce them, move to a secluded location and conduct their subsequent homosexual relationship with a partner outside the home.

    Listening to the likes of Tony Perkins and Matt Barber, you’d be forgiven for thinking they’d watched William Friedkin’s 1980 film, Cruising, and mistaken it for a nature documentary.

    The more we are persecuted (in historical examples or in other countries today), the more we seem to be a separate group manifesting abnormal conduct and a supposed threat to the good order of society. And so Lopez clings to a personal example from a previous generation rather than engage with his contemporary social environment, all the while treating 15.000 victims of the Holocaust as a minor matter. The historical grievance of illegality is, in the mind of Lopez, some “flimsy” apology for an eternal reality of inherent evil at the core of lesbians and gay men.

    Yes, it’s a losing argument.

  3. JCF
    April 19, 2014

    True cases of “gay parenting”, for argument’s sake, can only occur in the context of ***marriage equality*** [Preferably, where the child is born/adopted into a married couple]

    But until then . . . there’s Zach Wahls. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FSQQK2Vuf9Q

  4. Paul Douglas
    April 19, 2014

    Lopez is simply a loser. A really pathetic individual.

  5. StraightGrandmother
    April 19, 2014

    In his American Thinker piece he complains deeply about being squeezed out by conservatives. I thought that was great news! What ROL wants is a soapbox, he has found out that if he hates on gays some people pet and praise him. His need for attention and approval is way beyond normal it’s in my opinion manic.

    He is NOT stupid Rob, ROL knows that whatever he says about gay parents adopting is equally true for straight parents who adopt, he knows that. The fact that he makes his anti gay claims anyway when it is illogical shows you that he will literally say anything if it brings HIM attention. ROL desperately needs to have that spotlight on him. That desperation on the one hand is sad, much the way we pity someone really ill, but on the other hand dangerous.

  6. Ben in Oakland
    April 19, 2014

    Two things.

    I don’t have the reference any more, but I remember reading nearly 35 years ago that the number of gay victims was 250,000, according to the Lutheran church in Vienna.

    Also, Lopez is not only the product of a Regnerus home, but he is also the proud sponsor of a Regnerus family– a man who had one time had a homosexual relationship, and is now married to a woman and has children.

    I suggest we petition the government to remove this “person’s” children from the home immediately. we have proof that he is not fit to raise children.

  7. Steve
    April 19, 2014

    He wasn’t even raised part-time by lesbians. I recall that he said that his mother only saw her girlfriend on the weekends or something like that. But then his life story keeps changing all the time.

  8. Steve
    April 19, 2014

    Ok, just saw that you actually quoted that part.

    Still, most of the time he was basically raised by a single mother. This wasn’t much different from anyone being raised in a single parent home who spends time at a friend’s house now and then. But he probably rants against that too.

  9. Kubrick’s Rube
    April 19, 2014

    Lopez makes being a parent sound like the worst thing you can do to a child. If you follow his logic through to the end- that adoptive parents, by gaining the same rights as birth parents, are denying the child’s civil rights because of the control over the child that this grants them- then isn’t he kind of suggesting that parenting inherently denies a child’s civil rights? I know, he’d say that one of the rights children have is to a mother and father, but that’s irrelevant in his examples of coercive parenting, ungenerous parenting, and possible kidnapping; those all apply equally to any one with parental rights, gay or straight, birth or adoptive. Lopez, whether he realizes it or not, presents all parental rights as a necessary evil that should be as limited as possible.

  10. Regan DuCasse
    April 19, 2014

    There comes a point when people like Lopez are never going to be honest about what kind of people care about the things they have to say.
    He takes a lot for granted. He’s not consistent in telling the truth. He’s mainly consistent in being all over the place.
    He expects to get paid, but he’s not worth much. He’s not very attractive or charismatic. Which is true of a lot of the more prominent anti gay people who we hear about.
    And refuses to see it.
    Better to use the excuse that he’s ‘controversial’ or the subject of much censorship.
    The reality is, he’s not being silenced. He’s being IGNORED.
    There’s a difference.

  11. Jon Trouten
    April 19, 2014

    As a gay parent who became a gay parent through foster care and adoption, I would hesitate to focus too much on what factors lead to “true cases of ‘gay parenting.’”

    I know lots of gay parents. Some are gay married. Some are single. Some are partnered, but not officially married. Some gay couples have broken up and re-partnered. Some of our families come from surrogacy. Some come from adoption. Some of those adoptions were private infant adoptions while others were adopted at later ages through foster care. I know a few gay/lesbian pairings who have worked out co-parenting arrangements. And then, of course, there are those who became parents through prior heterosexual relationships (married or not) and then came out afterwards.

    It’d be hard for me to figure out which ones of these families include true gay parents vs. not-so-true gay parents.

    The biggest factor that I’ve noticed regarding success vs. less success with our families? It’s the closet. It can be a terrible thing when we introduce shame of our family to our kids.

  12. Steve
    April 19, 2014

    Not just adoptive parents. Step-parents too. One parent dies and the other remarries. According to Lopez they are forcing the child to accept the new spouse as parent. Even if they don’t want to. The horror!

  13. Bose in St. Peter MN
    April 19, 2014

    On top of his irrational arguments, Lopez’ self-made victimization over the lack of a manly-man in his childhood makes it hard for many to sympathize with him. I’m far from alone in having felt my dad’s absence as a kid, and yet it also became hugely instructive over time. I figured out that, in my case, my dad was never destined to have the capacity for a functional relationship with me, so having him closer or more involved wasn’t going to make me a better or more confident guy. But I could have been just as disconnected if I’d had a present, active dad who was desperate for me to play football or steer clear of photography and making music.

    He’d like me to believe that it’s a gaping, never-healing deficit to have found the role models I did and become the person I am, because I did so without a dad who was very available and much like me. Reasonable people know that parent-child relationships just aren’t that simple.

    His whining about being blacklisted misses the larger point — his comical pitch to those who would hire him. “Bring me on as a pro-family, anti-gay advocate, and I’ll show you how a good Christian (bisexual, erotica-writing) son disparages his mom after she died young and can no longer defend herself.”

  14. Robert
    April 19, 2014

    He is a desperately unhappy man. He has my pity. My husband and two sons have my love. There is nothing in my life more precious to me than marriage, home and family, and I make that clear every day of my life. I hope that he someday heals the shame that binds him, and learns to love without fear.

  15. Richard Rush
    April 19, 2014

    Once again we see, as we are seeing more often, terms such as homosexual fascists, homofascists, and gaystapo.

    One reason is that those terms help to keep gullible people from realizing that our real power comes from our straight allies (including Christian allies), because, at less than 5% of the population, we have little to no power by ourselves.

    A second reason is to throw people off the track from realizing the close links between Christianity and twentieth-century fascism, and also the realization that The Christian fascists Are Growing Stronger.

    As Sinclair Lewis said, “When fascism comes to America, it will be wrapped in the flag and carrying a cross”

  16. Regan DuCasse
    April 20, 2014

    That is entirely how heterosexuals become parents.
    Biologically, step parenting, fostering and adoption.
    There is virtually little difference in how heterosexuals and gays both are parents.
    Therefore, as said, one’s orientation and gender aren’t the point.
    The shame of the closet is more of the problem among families.

    As also stated by Bose, simply having a father isn’t a guarantee it’s going to be quality relationship whether he’s there or not.
    Being a good parent is not now, nor ever was a GROUP talent, but an individual one.
    The sooner the anti gay are damn honest about that, the better.

  17. Minz
    April 21, 2014

    Brought to us by the same people who brought us Regenerus’ incredibly flawed study. They’re not idiots, they’re malicious and sneaky.

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