Working Through the Five Steps of Grief

Jim Burroway

October 6th, 2014

The first step in the Kübler-Ross model is denial and the second step is anger, but leave it to anti-gay activists to go through the steps in the wrong order. They hit anger first, but now they’re backtracking to denial:

And Concerned Women for America’s Penny Nance:

“It is important to note that the Supreme Court has not ruled on the constitutionality of same-sex ‘marriage.’ They have merely declined to address the issue at this point in time, and that is actually better than imposing their view of marriage on the whole country. Americans are having a robust debate on this important issue, and for the Supreme Court to interrupt that debate and decide the issue for the country would be disastrous.”

And then there’s this, from the Family Policy Institute of Washington:

However, this is certainly not the final word on this subject either in the courts or in the culture. In the courts, there are several other cases working their way up through the system. The Supreme Court could be waiting for one of those cases to delay their final decision a couple of years. Culturally, the conversation over this issue is just getting started. In one sense, proponents of redefining marriage are just finishing their opening argument. Time will afford the chance for a rebuttal.

…In thirty years, it is the children of same-sex relationships who will be arguing most forcefully on our behalf. That is not because those children will hate the same-sex couples who raised them but because they will be immune to the argument that the only possible reason to support natural marriage is because you hate gay people. They will also have a perspective that those who deal only in theory and never in practice will have no response for.

The other steps are bargaining, depression and acceptance. I’m not sure where delusional falls into the scheme of things.

Mike Michaels

October 6th, 2014

“…In thirty years, it is the children of same-sex relationships who will be arguing most forcefully on our behalf.”

Ha… they are already losing this battle as well:

Zack Wahls:


October 7th, 2014

And when all fifty states have equality, and SCOTUS still has not ruled on the matter, they will still be patting themselves on the back. “Congratulations to us; SCOTUS never gave those filthy gays what they really wanted. We are still winning, because we are still debating.” Scaring people into giving you money can only go so far. They have to believe you can STOP the boogeyman, too.


October 7th, 2014

And you can’t tell me that “debating” is satisfactory when they wanted a firm ruling from SCOTUS in their favor. LGB people may not be satisfied either, but at least some LGB people will benefit from SCOTUS’s inaction, while 6 or more of their precious laws have fallen. So, they can go ahead and celebrate their ongoing debate. I’m going to start planning my wedding.

Priya Lynn

October 7th, 2014

“In thirty years, it is the children of same-sex relationships who will be arguing most forcefully on our behalf.”.

This is a great example of denial. Shows just how profoundly out of touch with reality they are.

Richard Rush

October 7th, 2014

“I’m not sure where delusional falls into the scheme of things.” That would like wondering during a hurricane, “I’m not sure where the rain is falling in our neighborhood.”

Cheryl M. Dare

October 7th, 2014

The religious righters claim we are forcing our beliefs on them and that this “redefines” marriage in some way. The fact is, that men can no longer buy a wife for two sheep and a goat means marriage is already being “redefined”. Do these religious right wingnuts think any social behavior is static for all time?

Cheryl M. Dare

October 7th, 2014

Religion has been used to hold up progress and is unrealistic at the best of times. These far righters are stuck demanding static mores on a fluid world. All we are asking is for us to enjoy all the rights others already have. We are not attempting to hijack anyone’s values; we just ask that everyone recognizes our differences and accept that we all can live together when we do away with the hatred and myths. (The religious right and teapartiers want to enshrine hate and the myths they’ve concocted.). Not good for a peaceful world. McCarthy started a myth that millions believed. We no longer need witch hunts like that. You just let us live happily and we can also let you live happier than you are. The “Red Scare” was all lies and so are the lines our opponents roll out in defense of their hate.

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