Ex-gay survivor and former Living Waters client Christine Bakke engaged

Daniel Gonzales

November 15th, 2010

Engagement photo by Dan Gonzales

In September I was thrilled to announce the engagement of ex-gay survivor Jacob Wilson but now we’ve got another high profile ex-gay survivor engagement, Christine Bakke!

Christine (a graphic designer) and Theresa (a medical grant writer) met on Facebook through a mutual friend who was a member of Gay Christian Network (GCN) and came to be good friends over the course of several months.  Theresa was living in Portland at the time and when she came to Denver for a concert met Christine face to face for the first time.

In February Theresa orchestrated an elaborate proposal treasure hunt where friends as far away as Canada participated by giving Christine clues to travel to various places around Denver all having meaning to Christine.

The ceremony will be held on Sunday January 9th 2011, the same weekend as GCN’s conference in Denver so Christine and Theresa’s friends from the organization can attend more easily.  Long time Evangelicals Concerned member Joe Quillan will MC the secular ceremony.  With Joe as MC three selected couples will take turns leading the ceremony.

As Colorado does not issue same-sex civil marriage licenses Christine and Theresa will be taking advantage of the state’s designated beneficiaries law.  Also both Christine and Theresa were born in California and have considered applying for a civil marriage license once equality is restored there.


November 15th, 2010

Congrats (once again) to my friends, Christine and Theresa! :D

Regan DuCasse

November 15th, 2010

Yay! Yay!
I’m so happy for them!
Christine, I LOVE you sister! This is beautiful.

XOXOX to you and Theresa!


November 15th, 2010

Congratulations, Christine!!

I’m very happy for you and Theresa.

Timothy Kincaid

November 15th, 2010

What joyous news. Congratulations to you both.

box frog

November 15th, 2010

Since homosexual conduct is associated with higher rates of sexual promiscuity, sexually transmitted diseases, mental illness, substance abuse, and domestic violence, it too qualifies as a behavior that is harmful to the people who engage in it and to society at large. It is not loving to encourage someone to indulge in such activities, no matter how much sensual pleasure they may derive from them. It is more loving to help them overcome them. This is why we should continue to oppose any policy or action that would celebrate or affirm homosexual conduct.


November 15th, 2010

Interesting take box frog, I happen to associate sexual promiscuity, sexually transmitted diseases, mental illness, substance abuse, and domestic violence with the heterosexual world more than I’ve seen in the homosexual world. Maybe you should go out to some straight bars, as I have, and had any number of what you would call “loose women” willing to service me in the bar or go home to have unsafe sex, all the meantime getting drunk, smoking pot, and basically just looking for some hot sex. Trust me, homosexuals do not have the corner market on anything you have mentioned.

Timothy Kincaid

November 15th, 2010

Dan Farrell (aka box frog)

By all reports, gay Christians entering into a monogamous and committed relationship have significantly reduced expectations of promiscuity, sexually transmitted disease, mental illness and substance abuse than do those who enter programs designed to “overcome” same-sex attractions.

Especially promiscuity and sexually transmitted disease. I’ve read the studies and they consider progress what they call “reduction in behaviors” but which anyone else would call “continuing to have sex with strangers, just less often”.

Priya Lynn

November 15th, 2010

Dan Farrell/box frog said “It is not loving to encourage someone to indulge in such activities, no matter how much sensual pleasure they may derive from them.”

That you think this is all same sex relationships are about shows how profoundly ignorant you are. Many same sex relationships have next to nothing to do with sex and people who only have sexual desire in common don’t form relationships and get married.

By the same logic you apply to gays and lesbians black people and natives should be discouraged from forming relationships and having children because they have higher levels of mental illness, substance abuse, domestic violence, promiscuity and STDs. As is the case with gays, this has nothing to do with a problem with being black, indian, or gay, its entirely due to the negative effects of discrmination and oppression by the majority.

Ben in Atlanta

November 15th, 2010

Congratulations to Christine and Theresa.

I once asked the members of a Usenet Newsgroup of mostly heterosexual musicians that seemed to want to believe the worst about me how much time they spent in the pursuit of sex. All of the ones that bothered to reply all seemed obsessed with it. I told them my life would make for some really boring reality TV. Sometimes I feel like posting links to some of the kinkier straight sex on X-Tube. My position is that I don’t have to behave any better or differently than anyone. I spend most of my free time between my church and community service because that’ what I want to do. And I still have a fairly firmly held opinion about how and why I became homeless at 16. At 55 I can say that it did get better for me and still is in every moment of the day.



November 15th, 2010

Just poking my head out to offer congratulations to the happy couple — may they have many happy years together.


November 15th, 2010

Congrats to Christine and Theresa!

I’ve known WAYYYY many more promiscuous straight men promiscuous gay people, box frog. Maybe you just hang out with atypical gay people?

Gay people don’t do very much that straights don’t also do.


November 16th, 2010

Christine and Theresa are my dear friends and I’m looking forward to celebrating with them in January.

Box Frog, normally I’m known to be the sweet Canadian peace-maker, bridge-builder …. but frankly I’m rather nauseated by your cheap attempt at attention by co-opting a celebrative announcement. Clearly, your words will carry no influence in this forum …. and you therefore reveal yourself to be an attention seeker and a rather pathetic one at that.

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