NOM’s Long and Profitable History of Deceit

Rob Tisinai

August 20th, 2012

When Floyd Corkins shot a guard at the Family Research Council, some people focused on the injured hero; others on the disturbed shooter. Some decried our nation’s fraying discourse; others worried over rhetoric vs. reality.

The National Organization for Marriage, it seems, is focusing on dollar $igns$. I wouldn’t begrudge them even that, if they weren’t using deception — lies, plain and simple — to con money from their supporters. I got an email from them today, containing a DONATE TODAY button. It read:

The Southern Poverty Law Center, a once-proud civil rights group that is now nothing more than a hard-left attack machine, has also tagged the FRC with this [hate groups] epithet, and they’ve threatened to do so with NOM as well. Our hateful crime? Opposing homosexual “marriage.”

This is a lie. This is a lie. This is a lie. This is a lie. And you know what else?

This is a lie.

In late 2010, the SPLC explained it drops the “hate group” label on organizations that propagate known, scientifically discredited falsehoods:

By “known falsehoods,” we mean such things as asserting that gays and lesbians are more disposed to molesting children than heterosexuals…Nowhere in our report do we equate taking a position against same-sex marriage with hate speech.

…We analyzed in detail each of 18 organizations we cite as purveyors of anti-gay rhetoric, and determined that the activities of five of them – including the National Organization for Marriage – did not meet the above-stated hate-group criteria despite their opposition to same-sex marriage.

Also from 2010:

Viewing homosexuality as unbiblical does not qualify organizations for listing as hate groups.

NOM lies. We take that for granted, but their supporters do not. And to be honest, I find this fleecing of their own somehow more disturbing than their war on us. Treating your enemies fairly is always a challenge (and they do consider us enemies — this same email refers to “gay ‘marriage’ thugs”). But to take money from your friends? That requires a complete lack of scruple.

This isn’t new. NOM’s been lying for years. Sometimes as part of a direct fundraising appeal; other times just to build up their base. Here’s a sampling:

  • NOM president Brian Brown dishonestly solicits donations by claiming that in Illinois, “government is refusing to work with Christian adoption agencies.”
  • NOM founder Maggie Gallagher dishonestly claims that she has never rested an argument “on the idea that same-sex couples harm their own children at any higher rates than any other family form.”
  • Maggie dishonestly claims that SPLC has added “a dozen or so ‘anti-gay hate groups,’ some for no apparent reason other than their vocal opposition to same-sex marriage.” (They’ve been pushing this falsehood for a while!).
  • Brian Brown dishonestly claims that 57% of Washington state voters oppose changing the definition of marriage (in fact, less than half expressed opposition — not quite as juicy a stat for him, but more honest).
  • Jennifer Roback Morse, NOM’s resident intellectual, dishonestly claims Judge Walker and attorneys Olsen and Boies “didn’t even mention [anti-gay precedent] Baker v Nelson”  during the Prop 8 trial.
  • NOM runs a dishonest headline: “Tell Christie to Withdraw Nomination of Pro-SSM Judge For Extremist Views Equating Christianity and Slavery” when the judge did nothing of the sort.
  • Brian Brown exploits soldiers with a fundraising email dishonestly claiming that guidelines were issued requiring naval chaplains to conduct same sex weddings (the donate button appears in the email version, not on their blog).

These are not judgment calls, not differences of opinion. These are lies. NOM lies and lies and lies, and just when you think they’re done, they lie some more.

Go ahead and share these links. Do you have friends or neighbors who support NOM? Family or colleagues? Share these links. Do you see blogs or articles or editorials claiming groups like NOM are vilified just for opposing same-sex marriage? Share these links.

And when you share, don’t forget to ask: If these groups have to lie to make their case, what kind of case could they possibly have?


August 20th, 2012

Which is why I donate to SPLC.

Regan DuCasse

August 20th, 2012

My family became members at SPLC’s FOUNDING. I’m still a member. There have been three other anti hate or defamation groups I’ve belonged to for a long time.
And since 1992, a member and volunteer with Simon Weisenthal.
Whenever I have visitors, I take them there, and encourage EVERYONE I know to go there.

NOM, FRC, don’t understand what advocacy for SOCIAL JUSTICE really means.
Because they don’t engage in it.
Were they truly advocates FOR marriage, their political agenda would be to strengthen laws against domestic violence or child abandonment.
They’d engage the public in SHARING marriage with everyone restricted by the basics already set against coercive, non consent, or redundancy.
Lies, defamation and fomenting stereotypes is just part of the criteria for the hate designation.
There is also participating in political and social action that supports discrimination or advances it directly.

The anti gay have criticized the NAACP, the SPLC and other groups VENERATED for their work in securing the rights of others and weakening the power of dangerously militant groups.

Recently, I was criticized, AGAIN, for comparing the struggle for civil rights with that of blacks.
I asked my detractors what they know, that the warriors of social justice like Coretta King, or Julian Bond or Rep. John Lewis didn’t know?

Brian Brown, and Tony Perkins are paper tigers. Men who have NEVER had to take any risks, but to hear them tell it, it’s their ilk who are at a socio/political advantage, and bear a great many risks for being Christian in this country.
So, it’s not only their lies that are ridiculous, it’s what they think of THEMSELVES and their place in this country and how the convince others of that place that truly deserves ridicule.

Because Matt Barber apparently knows something more about the civil rights movement and who owns it, than the aforementioned civil rights movement veterans.

This shooting isn’t even a tragedy really compared to the others that preceded it. Certainly not of the scope of the WI at the Sikh temple was.
I got a booklet from an anti hate group on how many hate crimes have been committed against Sikhs in this country in just the last ten years.

And Perkins taking all the gravity from what hate and hate crimes and who is most impacted, is in itself a disgrace on his part.

Timothy Kincaid

August 20th, 2012

Sometimes don’t you wish that their version of God – a vengeful disciplinarian who can’t wait to punish those who disobey his commands – was actually true?

“Brian Brown… my book told you not to lie. And you lied. And lied. And lied. And now you’re going to BURN. FOREVER!!!”

Nah, I can’t even wish that on Brian Brown.

Lindoro Almaviva

August 21st, 2012

I wonder how is NOM ranking now that some of its secrets are out and their rhetoric has been taken to a new level. I am not kidding and it bears a 2nd look. I have a feeling they are dangerously close to crossing that line. Would be interesting to see a good analysis of how the new information and their actions from last year stack against the SPCL standard.


August 22nd, 2012

Sharing the lies is the hardest part. Not because I have disinterested friends, but because accepting a lie is so much easier and so much quicker than investigating for oneself. I’ve always felt that was our biggest challenge in this.

Richard Rush

August 22nd, 2012

Although NOM pretends otherwise, they are largely a religion-based outfit, aren’t they? So, when NOMers inevitably invoke the legendary power of prayer, wouldn’t you expect their anti-gay God to give them better material to work with than lies?

And if God is AWOL, what about Robert George, one of NOM’s co-founders, and McCormick Professor of Jurisprudence at Princeton University? With such a high level of intellectual firepower, why are lies the best they can summon to protect the vitally important sanctity of heterosexual marriage & divorce?

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