9 responses

  1. Martin
    May 25, 2010

    “And my sister called and told me that she was going to pray that God would make me miserable the rest of my life.”

    I think this says more than anything else about the sentiment behind the Christian anti-gay agenda. Urging gay people to stop having gay sex isn’t enough for them. They’ll do everything they can to ensure that gay people are miserable. Talk about playing God.

  2. NARNC60AC
    May 25, 2010

    since there doesn’t appear to be a group for those that want to leave exodus & live their lives as openly as they should, why doesn’t someone start something like that?
    just a website where they can talk to other openly gay/lesbian Christians who have reconciled their Faith & sexuality would go a long way to assauging their fears of being abandoned if they leave exodus

  3. Jim Burroway
    May 25, 2010


    There is just such a group: http://www.beyondexgay.com/

  4. Richard Rush
    May 25, 2010

    Michael Bussee, you had enormous courage, and you deserve to be proud of that.

    It takes no courage to live life to please bigoted brainwashers, but it takes enormous courage to defy them, especially in their faces as you did, Michael.

  5. Grant
    May 25, 2010

    Maybe there will be a further update, but I’m curious about whether relations improved between Michael and his family, especially his siblings. It seems his mother, despite her initial trauma, accepted him back to her home.

    Thankfully Michael had Gary and was not totally alone, although being isolated from family, friends and associates is always shocking and traumatic.

    Imagine the poor youths who come out (or are outed) to their parents and are tossed, literally all alone in the world, onto the streets. How people of faith can claim to be doing this as a function of their beliefs is something I cannot understand. Talk about conditional love.

  6. Dan Gonzales
    May 25, 2010


    Sorry, the only unreleased video that mentions Michael’s family life is about his process of falling in love with his wife.

    However Michael does frequent the comments here so perhaps he’ll chime in.


  7. Grant
    May 25, 2010

    Thank you for responding Dan. I sure hope his siblings have come to some level of acceptance and love, for all their sakes.

    By the way – this has been a wonderful series, and very informative. Thank you for bringing it to us.

    – Grant

  8. Burr
    May 25, 2010

    These people have no faith at all if they think they’re in such perilous spiritual danger just standing in the same room as a gay relative.

  9. Michael Bussee
    May 27, 2010

    There was healing. My Mom eventually accepted Gary and stopped blaming herself — speaking out when “friends” or church-goers made anti-gay comments. My brother and sister love me and we are close.

    My coming out meant they had to come out. It was not easy for any of us. They were vicitms of the same homophobia that I had internalized.

    Thanks for posting the Beyond Exgay link. I also host a Facebook page for Ex-gay Survivors and their loved ones. It’s at “ex-ex-gay” on FB. Thanks, again, to Daniel and BTB.

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