And that’s the way to come out

Timothy Kincaid

August 21st, 2013

This is a smart, effective method to make the best of coming out.

August 21, 2013

Re: St. Petersburg International Film Festival / “Guest of Honor” Invitation

Dear Ms. Averbakh:

Thank you for your kind invitation. As someone who has enjoyed visiting Russia in the past and can also claim a degree of Russian ancestry, it would make me happy to say yes.

However, as a gay man, I must decline.

I am deeply troubled by the current attitude toward and treatment of gay men and women by the Russian government. The situation is in no way acceptable, and I cannot in good conscience participate in a celebratory occasion hosted by a country where people like myself are being systematically denied their basic right to live and love openly.

Perhaps, when and if circumstances improve, I’ll be free to make a different choice.

Until then.

Wentworth Miller

Member, HRC
Member, GLAAD
Member, The ManKind Project

Miller was the star of Prison Break which ran for four seasons (2005-2009) on Fox.


August 21st, 2013

Good for him – there have been rumors swirling for years but I’m glad he can be true to himself now…And what a hunk!


August 21st, 2013

Very classy. My hat’s off to him.


August 21st, 2013

As Mr. Mannerly says: When declining an invitation from bigots, do it politely. This makes you look dignified and triumphant and them look small and petty. It is more insulting to them than being directly insulting.


August 21st, 2013

My husband is in a lot of trouble if Mr. Miller is a chubby-chaser!


August 22nd, 2013

Following the Olympics, I think this is actually the route activists will have to take to target Russia’s anti-gay laws. Just like with the “Don’t Play Sun City” movement when apartheid was still in place in S. Africa, we should be encouraging high-profile entertainers to refuse to play Russia.

Oh, and Miller is 41! That just ain’t fair.

Paul in Canada

August 22nd, 2013

So, I love the letter and the bold stance. But Mr. Miller, while filming Prison Break, denied being gay – publically and to the press.

So, I’m really not so empressed with the man.

Priya Lynn

August 22nd, 2013

“So, I love the letter and the bold stance. But Mr. Miller, while filming Prison Break, denied being gay – publically and to the press.

So, I’m really not so empressed with the man.”.

I would never hold that against a gay person. To be out is to invite reprisals and abuse. If someone wants to avoid that by denying they’re gay I don’t have a problem with that.

Regan DuCasse

August 22nd, 2013

@ Paul in Canada: There is so much that’s hard to come out with in Hollywood. One’s ethnicity.
How many people knew that Martin Sheen what Hispanic, or how many knew which actors were really Jewish?
How many women (or men) in Hollywood can admit their age? Or weight?
Did you know Miller was black, or that old?
I’m gobsmacked that he’s gay. I was on a set and saw him up close and was PROFOUNDLY disappointed that I couldn’t be his wife someday anyway.
Because the man is hotter than fish grease.

I mean, my GOD he’s beautiful!
And I didn’t hold that against him then either.
So shut up!


August 23rd, 2013

Amen, Regan.

Ben in Oakland

August 23rd, 2013

We just started watching prison break last night. I’m enjoying it ten times as much as I thought I would. If the show isn’t a metaphor for being in the closet, especially while watching the very cute Mr. Miller outsmart and out-tough everyone, I can’t imagine what is.


August 23rd, 2013

Regan’s completely correct. While I’m open about being gay, I never reveal either my real age or weight.

Once you state either casting directors start ignoring you for a lot of projects.

I list my age range (40-55) and “heavy-set” and THAT’S it!


August 24th, 2013

He never came out before because that’s the way things work in Hollywood. Everyone sees it as a very gay-friendly industry, but not long ago gay actors were strongly advised to remain in the closet. Maybe that’s changed in recent years, I really have no idea, but the fact is that we’re seeing more and more gay actors coming out. Maybe casting directors are becoming more confortable with the idea of casting a gay man — I hope so, at least.

Regan DuCasse

August 25th, 2013

And I’m never going to be Shemar Moore’s wife either.
But at least he flirted with me!
I think it’s true, kokas. Changing. Bit by bit…and I hope so too.
The talent out there is too dynamite to pass up.
There’s a range of things gay actors could have done long ago that no one had the guts or imagination to deal with.
But now that a little more light is shining through the cracks, there are FANS out there who want to see this talent more than ever.
And orientation doesn’t matter. Kinda of like for the reasons I mentioned. We might enjoy and love looking at these talented people and live vicariously through them and their characters.
But we’re never going to marry them anyway…

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